Hi,
My DD is just over 4 weeks old, she was born 5 weeks early and was in hospital 3 weeks because of having jaundice, and being too sleepy/weak to feed (we had to do a mix of tube feeding, breast feeding and expressing and topping up with formula whilst she learnt to latch/got the energy to wake up for feeds)
Fast forward to today, and her feeding is brilliant and she's gaining weight fine. However, she will not settle at night! Please don't judge me, but the last 3 nights I've slept propped up in bed with her on my chest, because it's the ONLY way I've managed for us to sleep.
My health visitor has said this is too dangerous (my partner smokes, never around the baby but still) and has said we need to break this habit now.
She advised getting into a routine, dimming the lights etc so last night we:
•gave DD a warm bath
•changed her and dressed her
•put her in a baby sleeping bag (first time)
•fed her on the boob til she was full/fell asleep
•winded her
•placed her in her Moses basket and turned off the lights so the room was very dimly lit and quiet
•gave her a dummy (she's only ever sucked one a few times but thought it might help)
We did this at 7 and she would not settle. Every few minutes she'd whinge or start crying.
We ignored the whinge/fuss noises but when she started crying we'd place a hand on her tummy, soothe her and give her her dummy.
She didn't settle all night! We tried numerous different things, we swaddled instead of sleeping bag, we paced, patted her bum, fed her til she was asleep on the boob, tilted her Moses basket in case of reflux, and every time as soon as she's placed down, she stirs. At 4.30am, we were so tired I tucked DD in bed with me and my partner went and slept on the sofa. She slept fine beside me (I read about safe co sleeping and followed everything) she woke up at 6am for a feed and is now fast asleep in her Moses basket!
I am suffering from post natal depression quite badly and every time I think about it getting to night time, I feel sick to my stomach and burst into tears. I'm close to breaking point and I'm so, so stressed.
Has anybody please got any advice (and please be kind/gentle with me, I really am trying my best)
My healthy visitor strongly suggested the fading/receding chair but I looked into this and it's not recommended until 3 months.
Thank you
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Addi13 · 14/01/2017 06:51
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