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Thats it, i lost it last night, i smacked dd3

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misdee Mon 19-Feb-07 09:28:26

i put her back to her cot countless times, she had been pulling my hair, clawing at me, sitting on my head each time she gets out of her cot. Then she got out again, and pulled my hair really hard, and i am ashame4d that i smacked her. i dont have any defence except sleep deprivation. i cannot see this problem ending till she can move into her own room.

FotheringtonTomas Mon 19-Feb-07 09:29:18

you have so much going on, you're not superhuman, sweetie...

ghosty Mon 19-Feb-07 09:30:33

Sleep deprivation is enough to drive us all crazy misdee.

Don't be upset, you have a lot on your plate, she was playing you up. You had enough. You are a fab mum and don't you forget it!

misdee Mon 19-Feb-07 09:31:30

i just want her to start sleeping again.

she is grumpy as hell diuring the day and wont nap but she still doesnt sleep.

AitchTwoOh Mon 19-Feb-07 09:31:35

am aitch btw. (and do you know what? i was smacked when i was a naughty child and i genuinely, genuinely don't think it did me any harm. it didn't happen very often and just signalled very clearly that i'd Gone Too Far this time). how is dd today? and you?

LRWG Mon 19-Feb-07 09:31:45


Don't beat yourself up about it. As FT says, you ARE NOT superhuman!

AitchTwoOh Mon 19-Feb-07 09:32:32

i mean FT is/was aitch. agree with ghosty. you are a really, really good mum. just not made of steel, that's all.

misdee Mon 19-Feb-07 09:33:25

oh she is fine, grumpy. but fine.

AitchTwoOh Mon 19-Feb-07 09:34:19

when we would go through periods of not sleeping my mum used to give us hot chocolate with marshmallows in bed, presumably for the insulin slump. to hell with our teeth

AitchTwoOh Mon 19-Feb-07 09:35:26

can one do controlled crying during the day? i don't know anything about it, sorry.

ghosty Mon 19-Feb-07 09:36:05

How old is she again misdee? And is she sharing with you or with her big sisters?

misdee Mon 19-Feb-07 09:39:06

she is 2yr old this week, and is in my room.

ghosty Mon 19-Feb-07 09:45:34

It is such a hard age misdee ..... she is testing your boundaries at every level. And the sleep thing is clearly pushing your buttons and she knows it the little minx

misdee Mon 19-Feb-07 09:48:22

if she just climb into my bed and went to sleep i wouldnt mine, but she has to pull my hair and hurt me.

Socci Mon 19-Feb-07 09:52:01

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Dottydot Mon 19-Feb-07 09:55:27

Oh Misdee - I think you've done unbelievably well not chucking her out of the window by now - that would be driving me bonkers...

Is there anywhere else she can sleep at all - hallway/landing/anywhere you can put a cot? You neeeeeeeed sleep....

Socci Mon 19-Feb-07 09:57:17

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AitchTwoOh Mon 19-Feb-07 09:57:36

she needs sleep during the day, surely? can you shut her in your room (with a stair gate over the door) for some 'alone time' in the afternoon?

misdee Mon 19-Feb-07 09:58:07

theres no room for her to sleep anyuwhere else. if i let her get into dd2 bed then she pulls dd2 hair.

Aloha Mon 19-Feb-07 09:58:30

Oh poor you! My dd is going through phases of waking at night and she is so shuffly and kicky at night it's awful. Dh does nearly all the night wakings and looks grey atm - and I know you don't have that option.
Is there any chance you could try putting her in with her sisters?

Dottydot Mon 19-Feb-07 10:00:01

Would they top and tail? Is it worth trying for a night? I'd be going loopy with lack of sleep by now - or how about on the floor every now and then on a blow up bed - kind of as a treat, so that you at least get a proper night's sleep a couple of times a week?

dejags Mon 19-Feb-07 10:00:05

Sounds radical Misdee - but could you re-arrange your room in such a way that a single bed could be put in there?

That way you could swap the girls out i.e. move DD3 in with DD2 and have your DD1 in with you until everything settles down?

Otherwise, could you afford to buy bunk beds and setup a triple room for the girls i.e one single bed and a set of bunks?

Don't feel bad btw - you are a lovely mum and your DD knows this - she is just testing you.

dejags Mon 19-Feb-07 10:01:07

Sorry I didn't read about the space issue. If this were me, I'd decamp to the sofa until she settles down.

PinkTulips Mon 19-Feb-07 10:01:52

agree with aitch, there's a huge differance betweeen a very rare slap to signal that you've crossed the line this time and being regularly slapped for everything. it did me no harm either.

like you said you were shattered and at the end of your tether, lord knows we've all been there. i'll admit to having shouted at dd really horribly a few times when we were having similar probs, as if that was going to get her down!


still no luck convincing peter ye need to move?

misdee Mon 19-Feb-07 10:01:59

a single bed will be going into my room, but its a small single for dd3, am hoping to get her matress this week. (ikea vikare)

dd1+2 room is about 9ft by 8ftm they have bunk beds already in there. dh room is smaller.

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