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I don't think my 16 month old will ever sleep through

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Tinks15 Tue 29-Nov-16 22:30:19

...night after night its the same. She has NEVER slept through a WHOLE night.
First wake up i resettle (which i can deal with this can take up to 30 mins for her to fall back to sleep properly) but normally within 30 mins of her going back off shes awake again & thats when i bring her into our bed (as i cant face sitting next to her cot for long periods of time through the night) where she still frequently wakes but with a quick cuddle she normally goes back off pretty quickly.
Not really sure what my post is trying to achieve, but is anyone in the same boat? Or anyone have any happy stories where their DC suddenly slept through? Thanks

JohnLapsleyParlabane Tue 29-Nov-16 22:35:53

Sympathy. We were in a similar position. Husband is now resettler in chief, she has gone from 3 or more wake ups of 30mins each, to one 5 minute cuddle. It's taken a few weeks and the first few nights were loud. We haven't coslept since she was 5months though.

LadyOrangutan Tue 29-Nov-16 22:42:17

I am on day 6 of sleep training with 14 month old DS. The method is about teaching them to self settle but you don't use cry it out etc. He has gone from waking up to 6 times a night (and like you, taking him into our bed just so I could get some sleep) to sleeping 12 hours straight. And we've even dropped his dream feed!
I do not work for this company and I get nothing from posting this (just in case anyone is suspicious! I'm on mumsnet a long time - naice ham/ spoony fucker / cutted up pear / penis beaker) but if you want to look in the sleep consultant that I'm using, they're called Calm & Bright. They have a face book page too if you want.
Your DD will get there!! Sleep will come but you'll have to help her to learn what she needs to do.

53rdAndBird Tue 29-Nov-16 22:46:30

My 2.5-year-old doesn't sleep either. Nothing works. I am so bloody tired.

What I tell myself: even if she never ever sleeps through ever, there will
come a point when it's not my problem any more. If she's 13 and waking up she's not going to need me to get up too, right? So one way or the other, one day I will get a full night's sleep again.

(I first slept through aged 3 apparently.)

buddy79 Tue 29-Nov-16 22:58:11

It's so shit. I did Dr Jay Gordon method (google it, it's just an article) with mine at 14 months. Before that he woke every 2 1/2 -3 hours every single night, had never slept through, never self settled. I really steeled myself for it, thinking it would be a horrendous few weeks of night time tears etc but it was absolutely amazing, within 2 weeks had dropped one regular waking and another week after that just started sleeping through by himself and has ever since. Although I don't know if it was the method itself or just that he happened to be ready himself anyway. That is until last month (23 months) when he has started waking again aargh..but I feel more zen about it all now which definitely helps. He's generally calm as long as I am in the room, so I get prepared with a nice warm blanket and my kindle and just camp out. It will pass...

MissMarplesHat Tue 29-Nov-16 23:00:36

Ds didn't sleep through until 3.5, it will get better.

DoodleCat Tue 29-Nov-16 23:01:12

1.5 year old here.. wakes 3 times a night.. sorry!!!!

YorkiePudster Tue 29-Nov-16 23:11:06

Total empathy here - DD is now 3.5, she first slept through for a few nights at nearly 1 after Dr prescribed piriton for something unrelated; it didn't last though. Never napped for more than an hour, no more than 3 hours at a stretch most nights and I was an utter wreck.

But - it did get better. Much more slowly than everyone else i knew and we had setbacks and still do have regressions every few weeks, but now she generally sleeps through and has done for about a year. I genuinely believe there was nothing I could've done to make it happen earlier, I think she just wasn't ready before then.

I could happily have stabbed in the eye everyone who tried to reassure me that it'd improve, but it really did. In the meantime just get through each day and wish for a bird to shit on the head of anyone who gloats about their 6 week old perfect sleeper!

rebeccaroskellthomas Thu 01-Dec-16 11:15:06

We've done controlled crying and it's worked brilliantly. 8 days ago we were having to do shifts to sleep with our LG and now she's sleeping through. Or if she does wake we don't have to go in to her as she settles again within 10 minutes.

If you want any guidance let me know. I know controlled crying isn't for everyone and I didn't think I wanted to do it but I got desperate and it's worked!

thethoughtfox Thu 01-Dec-16 11:20:20

The Gentle Sleep book does just that. Helps you guide them into sleep but not leaving them to cry. I don't like CC but you haver to weigh up a few nights of upset and then everyone is happier and more rested. Your baby knows you now and you have built up a good relationship; it's not like a new baby who realises no one comes ever when they call.

sycamore54321 Thu 01-Dec-16 11:23:41

Trying to say this gently. If it is a problem for you, then doing the same things you have always done will get you the same results as you have already. If you can tolerate what is happening now AND if you think your child is on balance well-rested, then it is entirely your choice to keep going as you are. If however you are at the end of your tether and /or she is exhausted regularly, then you should consider investing in change for both your sakes.

If you want to change and help her sleep better, then you need to be proactive. Can you identify a period where you have fewer demands on your time or more help so you can nap yourself during the day, and use this as your target for trying to crack the current habits?

I loosely used the methods outlined in Kim West's book, Night Night Sleep Tight but there are lots of options depending on your preferences.

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