Can't go on(10 Posts)
My 8 week old is awake and crying its 3.45. Every night she starts fussing at 7pm until 4am. She is bf with a the odd bit of formula. She used to stay up til 12/1 now its getting later!!!
Swaddling worked for a few days, then she screamed the house down trying to break free several times so we had to give up. Infacol=projectile vomiting.
She will fall asleep on us but will not settle in sleepyhead in snuzpod.
We tried fan/white noise/womb sounds. Tried a mobile, bf to sleep, singing, bouncing, walking, leaving for a bit, dummie- spat out every 2 mins.
Nothing works for more than a night or two. I ensure she is winded, fed and clean. Losing the will to live. She sleeps well during the day- should i wake her. Im heading for a break down.
That's miserable. Sorry you're having such a nightmare. I would be struggling to cope too
i often am already and my DD isn't this bad at sleeping. It sounds like you've tried about everything but no doubt someone will come along with more ideas to help her sleep. In the mean time is it possible for you to get a bit of a break to help you cope? Could you and your OH take nights about or at least give you a break for the night using bottles? Is there any way you can sleep more during the day to help you get through the nights?
It's shit, but it WILL pass. Have faith.
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My 1 month old is a nightmare for sleeping too day and night. She will only sleep on me i cant put her down and oh cant settle her either. I am literally with her 24/7 and i love her but its exhausting. I'm sorry i dont really have a solution for you it is just a case of waiting it out until it passes.
Really hope you dont have to wait long and know youre not alone.
What about a sling? My 8 week old falls asleep in it like a dream and it allows me to have a 'life' (i.e. do the dishes, have dinner etc). He can then be transferred to his crib. The sling completely changed my evenings!
By 8 weeks I was starting to move them into a routine so less naps in the day. Not waking but not making loads of effort to let them sleep either. So cot / crib for day naps (I let them.sleep upstairs and just did stuff up there so I was in the same room/ landing) and they got use to the room and cot. If my talking on the phone, cleaning/ general pottering woke them, so be it.
It def helped them start to accept their cot for night times.
Thanks guys some great tips.
Might chuck DH out and try co sleeping. I have an appointment with sling library in 2 weeks.
She was up til 4am back up grunting and straining at 6am. She does that to poop/fart every morning.
Jabs today hope they won't make her worse.
Jabs might actually make her a bit sleepier, here's hoping
I feel for you, it's so very hard, but like others say it DOES eventually pass. I co slept with both of mine at this age and wouldn't have survived otherwise. Had some success occasionally with swaddling and then into the Sleepyhead. I take it you've tried swaddling and white noise?
If she's the type that will only settle ON your chest as opposed to side by side with you, here's what I did for a while:
-Got into the middle of the bed (partner out)
- Propped my back with one of these pillows, plus added an extra small cushion behind my head so I could lean right back
- Elbows propped with two normal pillows under each one,
- Baby on chest.
It's not a long term solution but it did allow me to doze comfortably enough for a few hours and without fear of the baby rolling off.
It will pass, it will pass, it will pass
Thanks halfstar ill try something like that.
You are right she has slept all day poor darling. Its been one of the worst days of my life mentally. Things have to get better.
So grateful for everyones replies.
DH and I took in in turns to sleep when ds2 was tiny- so one slept until 12, then the other 12-4 etc etc. It does really help knowing you'll get some proper sleep time. I promise you it will pass. Doesn't make it easier at the time when you feel like you'll never sleep again. Also sleep whenever you can during the day. Get DH or someone else to take the wee one out for a walk. Good luck x
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