I've now been awake for nearly 22 hours, please help...

(43 Posts)
OhWhatAPalaver Mon 10-Oct-16 01:34:35

Dd is 16 weeks. She has had one stretch of good sleep in the past 4 weeks, which was last night, she went from half ten till half 4, which was amazing. She is very refluxy and we gave her infant gavisgon before bed last night for the first time. We put the good sleep down to this so tonight we gave her the gavisgon as a dream feed at half ten as she fell asleep earlier than expected (9ish).
Since then she hasn't settled properly and it took several attempts to even get her in her cot without waking up. When She did finally go down she was awake again half an hour later sas she had wind. She incredibly difficult to put down at the best of times and only wants to sleep on me. Needless to say I'm exhausted and I'm struggling.
She's ebf so usually falls asleep on the boob but this usually means she's very difficult to wind. I'm now feeding her again as she was distressed and I don't know what else to do. I can sometimes get her sleep with rocking and singing to her but I've not go much energy left for that now. She sometimes settles in her chair with the music and vibrate on but she never stays asleep for long in it.
It's all going tits up at the moment, every decision I make to try and get her to sleep better seems to be wrong. I should have just left her sleeping instead of giving her the dream feed.
I'm supposed to be taking dd1 to school in the morning which is a 50 minute round trip in the car and I'm dreading it. I'm just too tired. Sorry this is so long and waffly, it's very late and I've been up since 4.30 am!

DorotheaHomeAlone Mon 10-Oct-16 01:47:22

Oh wow. This sounds so incredibly hard. My son didn't have reflux but just would not go down in the cot for the first 3 months. I was exhausted, kept falling asleep with him and generally felt unsafe caring for him and my daughter. I decided to try him on his tummy. Not optimal but safer than trying to sit up with him all night. He slept for 7 hours straight! We haven't looked back.

Gobbolinothewitchscat Mon 10-Oct-16 01:47:37

Aarghh! I feel for you

I have 3 DCs aged 3 and under. I co slept with the third as I just needed sleep. Is that an option, even just for tonight? I put DD in her own room no bother at 6 months, despite the horror stories I was worried about her sleeping in our bed age 10

Re wind: I find dentinox amazing. Might be worth picking some up tomorrow - I know no use now.

zzzzz Mon 10-Oct-16 01:51:07

If you have a partner, give them the baby and go to sleep for 3 hours. Then your turn.

Phone dd in absent tomorrow you will not be fit to drive.

Gobbolinothewitchscat Mon 10-Oct-16 01:52:37

Can you go in a taxi tomorrow to school?

DailyMailPenisPieces Mon 10-Oct-16 02:00:49

Agree, don't drive. Cranial osteopathy may help. flowerscake[tea]

DailyMailPenisPieces Mon 10-Oct-16 02:01:20

brew rather

FabFiveFreddie Mon 10-Oct-16 02:07:22

You poor thing. No advice I'm afraid but I feel for you.

Posting really to politely request that you don't drive tomorrow. You risk making things a lot worse for you and for others. Find it ask DH to find another solution, and worst case DC stays home and/or DH stays home.

Good luck op. You already know it won't last forever, but it seems interminable when you're in it.

Handsoffmysweets Mon 10-Oct-16 02:07:33

It could be that the gaviscon has made her constipated. Do you have any gripe water in the house? Also, if she's feeding well in the day and putting on weight is there any need to wake her for a dream feed? She may be unsettled because of it.

OhWhatAPalaver Mon 10-Oct-16 03:07:39

I'm not going do the dream feed thing again for sure! And I think the gavisgon has given her terrible farts. Still no sleep for me. I don't think I'll be driving tomorrow, will have to get her grandma down here I think. I can't give her to dp either as he has to be up really early for work. I've had to bring her downstairs now otherwise neither of us will have slept :/
I do have gripe water but she won't have it unfortunately.

OhWhatAPalaver Mon 10-Oct-16 03:17:54

Also I'm quite worried about co sleeping as I've never done it before and no idea if it's actually possible to do it safely.

Optimist3 Mon 10-Oct-16 04:09:24

My midwifes recommended cosleeoing as long as no alcohol/drugs taken

FabFiveFreddie Mon 10-Oct-16 04:14:33

At 16 weeks you will be fine to cosleep.

Just one pillow firmly under your head. Lie on your side facing baby. Put 90% of pillow behind you.

Put baby between you and wall. Lots of space between you and baby. She won't be rolling yet so no concerns there.

Make sure you are lower down the bed than baby, with duvet no further up than your armpits.

Get some sleep. Once you've had some you can start trying to bf lying down. You will get so much more rest this way.

Good luck.

amysmummy12345 Mon 10-Oct-16 04:28:31

Gaviscon made my DD terribly constipated (breastfed) did all the sitting up after feeds etc but didn't really make a difference,ranitidine was a game changer for us... Although side effects include possible insomnia confused

DollyBarton Mon 10-Oct-16 05:41:21

Learn to feed lying down and cosleep after the feed. She's 16weeks, she'll give you a punch if you get too close!

thenewaveragebear1983 Mon 10-Oct-16 05:49:19

Use the syringe from the Calpol if you have it to give the gripe water, or the pippette from infacol. We found both of these much easier that a spoon, they soon get wise to you coming at them with a spoon of gripe water! We found gaviscon and breastfeeding such an incredible faff, it made ds horribly constipated too. I agree with the tummy sleeping, you can position their bottom quite high and it helps with the wind.
flowersfor you OP, these days are hard but they won't last forever. Hope you manage to get some sleep

Writerwannabe83 Mon 10-Oct-16 06:11:38

Gaviscon can be very tough on a baby's tummy especially if they are breast fed. I was prescribed it for my non-sleeping refluxy DS when he was 8 weeks old but I asked if I could have Ranitidine instead and we saw a difference within a few days.

If a baby has got stomach ache they will want to breast feed because there are factors in breast milk that can ease acidity and discomfort which may be why your baby seems to want to be on you all the time. You are pain relief and comfort.

I also swear by Gripe Water, it worked amazingly when DS had trapped wind.

I started co-sleeping with DS when he was about four months old as we had other sleep issues and although I was nervous about doing it at first it soon became very natural.

Even if your DP/DH has got work the next day he still needs to help you. You need sleep too. You driving around on no sleep is extremely dangerous and why he thinks his sleep is more important then yours and his children's safety is beyond me. When my DS was screaming for hours and hours on end with colic throughout the night and into the early hours of the morning my DH would never have left me to deal with it on his own. Your DH/DP needs to support you as sleep deprivation is just horrific.

ayeokthen Mon 10-Oct-16 06:14:23

All 3 of ours had reflux and while gaviscon cured that, it gave them terrible trapped wind. After trying every feckin thing on the market which did bugger all we discovered colocynth granules from Boots pharmacy. It's £10 for a tiny bottle, you give the granules before a feed and they dissolve under the tongue. I've no idea how they work but they are little miracles grin

abbsismyhero Mon 10-Oct-16 06:23:06

Is she sleeping propped up? Reflux babies prefer sleeping propped up

Thattimeofyearagain Mon 10-Oct-16 06:29:57

Did you get some sleep op? Xx

OhWhatAPalaver Mon 10-Oct-16 06:40:46

I've had about a couple of half hour stints of sleep. I'm on the sofa downstairs and dd was in her chair with the vibrate on.
I didn't actually even ask my dp to help, bit silly of me really.
I think we'll give the gavisgon a miss now. It's given her such a bad tummy.
She is sleeping propped up, we put books under her cot. Seems to help a little bit but definitely not solved the problem.
Might move the bedroom around so bed is against the wall and see what happens with co sleeping.
I've got her grandma coming to help so no driving for me. Thanks for all your replies.

a8mint Mon 10-Oct-16 06:47:58

I used to sleep very low down in the bed whilst the baby slept up near the top with their own blanket and well away from the duvet and pillow.

Writerwannabe83 Mon 10-Oct-16 06:57:21

That's what I did too a8mint - I put my DS at the top of the bed and I had my head near his feet so I knew that even if I had my blankets pulled up high over my shoulders it meant they still weren't anywhere near DS.

Nan0second Mon 10-Oct-16 09:20:59

Talk to gp and ask for ranitidine. Gaviscon is shit for breast fed babies.
Hang in there

Timetogrowup2016 Tue 11-Oct-16 14:39:53

Gwt your dh help . He shouldn't be getting a full night and you getting none .
His working yes but so r u looking after your children

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