Co-sleeping toddler - next steps?

(6 Posts)
teaandbiscuitsforme Sun 09-Oct-16 12:21:31

DD is 18mths and has co-slept and BF to sleep since birth. No complaints, it's absolutely been the right thing for us so please no suggestions otherwise!!

But now I'm pregnant, tired and I'm not sleeping with her attached. DH used to work away so I've always done bedtimes but he's around now so I'm getting more help (bathtime etc).

So about a month ago we moved DD into a single bed. It's gone surprisingly well considering she was a total cot refuser. I feed to sleep in her bed, then when she wakes I either feed in her bed or bring her into ours if I'm feeling tired. Longest she's stayed in her bed is until 4 but that was a one off!

But now I think I want to stop. Maybe night wean. So what do I do? These are the options I've thought of but wondering if there are any better suggestions?

1. Make myself go into her bed every time she wakes and feed to sleep, then leave. Can't see me getting more sleep though.

2. Me go to her when she wakes but no feeding - there will be tears and tantrums

3. Send DH in when she wakes - again, more tears and tantrums

4. Go in and feed the first time she wakes (e.g. if she wakes before midnight) but then send DH in

5. Keep bringing her into our bed. Not sure if it's pregnancy related but I just can't sleep with her attached any more and since she's been in her own bed a bit, she's staying attached for a lot longer than she was when we fully co-slept.

So any suggestions?

Sorry it's long!

CobsAhoy Sun 09-Oct-16 13:07:50

Hey OP,

Not got any experience to share but my 12mo DD is a cosleeping breast feeder and planning on night weaning and moving to own room around 18months. This is what I plan to do.....

sarahockwell-smith.com/2014/08/10/how-to-gently-night-wean-a-breastfed-baby-or-toddler/

I'm sure this will all go incredibly smoothly with no deviation from the plan whatsoever......

Good luck (and congrats on your pregnancy!) xx

Iguessyourestuckwithme Sun 09-Oct-16 13:13:56

By bringing her into your bed at some point youre confusing her and she's learning that if she wakes enough/cries enough that she will get to go in the big bed.

So youre choices are 1,2,3,4

teaandbiscuitsforme Sun 09-Oct-16 16:07:17

Thanks for the link Cobs

crumpeteer Sun 09-Oct-16 22:04:05

I nightweaned my daughter at around 14 months and it was surprisingly easy, 2 very disturbed nights cuddling her and much better quality sleep from then on for both of us. You can do this!
I read jay Gordon's take on things prior. Good luck!

Nan0second Mon 10-Oct-16 09:32:35

Jay Gordon is your man for this. A great night weaning plan. We were firm and DD is not allowed out of the cot before 5.30am and then only comes into a dark room until 6.45am which is considered an ok time to get up! Mainly she sleeps til 6.15 though now!

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