What time should bedtime be?

(37 Posts)
Nottalotta Fri 08-Jul-16 19:02:25

For a nearly one year old? Should I be flexible? I'm knackered, early pregnancy, he's not sleeping til 8.30 on average, awake before 6, not sleeping through.

Hastalapasta Fri 08-Jul-16 19:04:31

Normal I am afraid to say. Be flexible. Do you have help? Does DC nap in the day? Hate to say it but some kids thrive on very little sleep...

Nottalotta Fri 08-Jul-16 19:08:29

I'm working three full days, and do have a husband but he's pretty useless.

Nottalotta Fri 08-Jul-16 19:09:19

Naps twice for 40 minutes, usually as a result of walking with the pram.

Coconut0il Fri 08-Jul-16 23:32:55

We've had a nightmare week.. We've had 915, 930, 10 and tonight DS2 is still going... I've given up and he's now crawling around the bedroom in the dark shock He's up at 7ish every morning (that's fine), having one 2/3 hour nap (again fine) but bedtime has gone mad. He's not crying or grumpy just won't sleep. He's 10 months. I think he just doesn't need as much sleep as I'd like.

Dixiechick17 Sat 09-Jul-16 12:20:02

We found making our 13 month old DD'S bedtime much earlier helped. Turned out she was overtired and once she gets to that stage won't settle until later. So we start the winding down process at 6.30, bottle at 6.45 then she usually settles. Some nights if we haven't had much of an active day she will walk around her cot for an hour until eventually going to sleep, we only go in if she cries, then pick her up and pop he back down, can do this multiple times but has helped. Every baby is different though.

She doesn't sleep through either, wakes up once or twice, teething doesn't help.

Nottalotta Sat 09-Jul-16 22:07:43

We start bedtime at 6, go upstairs, bath, pj's, two stories and bf. Used to always be asleep by 7 if not before. I wonder if he is too tired? We have slipped to later but I think that was after the later nights started.

Oly5 Sat 09-Jul-16 22:09:33

8 in our house
But at that age neither of mine were good sleepers
It will improve OP

Coconut0il Sat 09-Jul-16 22:27:23

DS2 went to sleep every night at 7-730 from about 3 -7 months. I swear when the clocks changed something happened to him as it's been later and later. After finally falling asleep at 1150 last night he was up at 730, had a nap 12.30-3.30 and is still up pottering around now. I did try today to take him up at 7 to see if it made a difference but after an hour of him spinning round the bed I bought him back downstairs shock

Nottalotta Sat 09-Jul-16 22:42:41

I aim for 8 now, at least there is some chance of success. I'm just knackered.

Coconut0il Sat 09-Jul-16 22:56:46

Asleep now, think I'll try 8 tomorrow. You must be shattered notta, can't imagine being pregnant too. Luckily DP came home from work at 8 this morning so I went back to sleep till 930. Debating whether to set my alarm for 6 or not? Will it get me an earlier night?

Nottalotta Sun 10-Jul-16 09:46:18

It's this early pregnancy, I remember it being exhausting last time. Ds is up between 5-6, he was asleep by 8 last night but took over an hour of bf, and singing to get him there. Really need to try and get him in his cot awake and self settling, but can't see it being easy!

Coconut0il Sun 10-Jul-16 12:17:47

It's much more tiring being pregnant with number 2. With DS1 I still lived with my mom, I slept all the time!

I didn't set the alarm, DS2 slept till 920 so who knows what time we'll be in bed tonight confused Have a party this afternoon so hopefully that will tire him out. I never managed the drowsy but awake with DS1 and I don't think I'll manage it this time either!

Nottalotta Sun 10-Jul-16 19:19:13

9.20!!!!we were up at 6. 30 minute nap this a.m and 40 minutes p.m. He's tired so we've done bedtime, but he's currently staying in his cot doing some sort of interpretive dance.

We also had a party this afternoon. He spent 90 minutes on the go so was hoping that would have some effect. He just doesn't stop.

Good luck tonight!

Trinpy Sun 10-Jul-16 19:24:32

Do you think he might be ready to cut down to one nap? He might need a longer stretch of awake time in the afternoon?

Nottalotta Sun 10-Jul-16 19:27:50

I wondered that a few weeks ago when he started napping 2-3 he stretches in the morning, but he seems to have stopped that again now.

Been in his cot around 40 minutes now, quite happy, chatting and wandering about.

Nottalotta Sun 10-Jul-16 19:28:39

He only napped 30 minutes this morning so couldn't stretch to and sort of reasonable bedtime on just that.

datingbarb Sun 10-Jul-16 19:33:16

Bedtime for all mine was 7-7.30pm - 7-8am

What's the day time naps like?

Mine always went down about 12.30 after lunch and slept till 2.30-3pm

Are the sleeping to late in the day? I honestly find if over tied they tend to sleep less

Nottalotta Sun 10-Jul-16 20:11:17

He's always been a crap napper. Bedtime was our one reliable thing! I had got him napping in his cot, albeit feeding to sleep, then I had to go back to work and mum and Mil get him to sleep in his pram. Cot naps have disappeared since then!

He will generally have two 40 min naps. If I could get them earlier it would help.

Nottalotta Mon 11-Jul-16 16:06:29

So today we woke 5.45. First nap just past 9, second just past 2 but short, noisy neighbours. So, really hoping for a 7pm finish......

Coconut0il Mon 11-Jul-16 16:25:51

5.45 shock Fingers crossed for 7pm!

No chance for me, went to baby group this morning and had a nap 11 till 1145 when I dared to stop pushing the pushchair and sit down... eyes straight open. Asleep again now...

sianihedgehog Mon 11-Jul-16 16:29:59

My 10 month old is similar, asleep around 9, awake at 5:15, and awake to feed in the middle of the night. He just doesn't seem to need much sleep. :/

Nottalotta Mon 11-Jul-16 19:10:27

Asleep!!!!! Haven't put him.down yet. But still.

Yes awake between 5 +6 every day coconut. Hence me being on my knees with tiredness. Early pregnancy is bad enough without this.

Coconut0il Mon 11-Jul-16 21:11:36

Did he go down? Hope you're sleeping now. Will your DP help? Mine has never had much luck settling DS2 of a night but he used to take him downstairs 5-7am so I could sleep.
DS2 has just dropped off, feed him in bed so might just stay here and get some sleep myself.

Nottalotta Mon 11-Jul-16 21:21:31

Messed up the first attempt, knocked the cot, set the mobile off then kicked a rattly toy in my haste to switch the mobile off! Fed again and straight back to sleep so I was downstairs by 7.30. Just going to bed, shattered and expecting a 5 am start after tonight's early night!

I often give up and just go to bed with him feeding.

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