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Habs13 Wed 25-May-16 12:24:37

Have been trying to get my 15 month old baby to sleep in her cot. Have tried sleeping next to her where she can see me next to her, have tried the Ferber method and with both situations she cried till she's been physically sick. I've run out of ideas...! I have no idea what to try now!?? Please help!!

Coconut0il Wed 25-May-16 14:44:14

I'm sure someone will give you better advice but I co slept with DS1 and I'm co sleeping with DS2. It's just what works for us.
I fed DS1 to sleep until we finished bf, then I used to sing to him, then we read a story and had a cuddle. DS2 is going the same way. We just waited it out, they get there in the end.

Habs13 Wed 25-May-16 15:52:30

Thanks for your input. How old was your DS1 was when the slept I their cot?

Coconut0il Wed 25-May-16 16:26:56

Probably not what you want to hear but about 2 and a halfgrin My DP used to work night shifts so I probably left him a little too long! He did sleep in there sometimes when we took the one side off and had it level with our bed.

fluffikins Wed 25-May-16 19:05:57

It's developmental so you can't really teach it. I just hold my daughter (doing it now!) until she's in deep sleep and then transfer her into a cot.

This is a useful read

https://sarahockwell-smith.com/2014/06/30/self-settling-what-really-happens-when-you-teach-a-baby-to-self-soothe-to-sleep/

Ughnotagain Wed 25-May-16 19:07:21

I read this lately and it's something we've been trying (kind of half heartedly I must admit, considering I'm feeding my 12 month old to sleep as we speak). I think it would take time but it seems the kindest way to do it.

www.ahaparenting.com/ask-the-doctor-1/how-to-get-one-year-old-to-sleep-through-the-night

katljb Sat 28-May-16 01:43:26

Someone pls give advice. I sleep trained (yes too early apparently ) at 7 weeks because he was ill and once he got better we had developed bad habits. So we did cry it out and after 1 night everything went well till he started teething. Then i wss up and down all night so we put him in bed with us so we get a good night's sleep. But now i think hes got in the habit of seeing /cuddling to sleep. How do i find the right balance between self soothing and comforting when he's in pain? And getting sleep myself? (Niw ive typed this i hear it its impossible with a baby...) but any advice appriciated x

fluffikins Sat 28-May-16 11:43:00

Just cuddle, they're so tiny for so short amount of time

Skiptonlass Sat 28-May-16 13:05:08

katljb if they are poorly or in pain you're not going to get a good night of sleep. Just soothe them - if theyre in pain they need you.
Seven weeks (do you mean months maybe?) is far, far too young to sleep train. I'm quite disturbed that anyone would leave a seven week old to cry to be honest. They're tiny. Barely born. They aren't supposed to sleep through at that age! At that Age crying is a signal they need something- food, warmth, nappy, comfort. By ignoring you break the only way they have of communication.
Please, please don't leave such a tiny baby to cry. By seven months yes, they can have a 'pissed off you won't pass me back the thing I've flung on the floor twenty times' cry which is different from a cry of genuine fear or need. And you can ignore that, distract them, etc.
They aren't capable of self soothing until a certain age. Before that age, you just try to get the bones of a routine in, and if they cry you go to them. Even if it's 3am, for the millionth time.
Sleep training is for older babies.

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