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9mo difficult to put down

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piesoclock Mon 25-Apr-16 20:18:02

My 9mo used to go down after his evening feed ok.
This last week he's taking an age to transfer to the cot. He's fast asleep on me byt as soon as I go to move him he wakes up and yells in his cot.
He's bf but now pulls off and settles himself on my lap.
Hes teething so we give him calpol before the feed.
He's not been waking in the night. Has slept 12/13 hours since 7 months.
Is trying to work out how to crawl.

Whats going on, please help I've been here since 6.45!

Nottalotta Mon 25-Apr-16 20:21:52

I had this last night, also 9 months. Took me 5 attempts. He usually bf to sleep, and 10 minutes later I plonk him in his cot on his front. Even if he wakes he will drop his head back down and go straight back to sleep. Last night, he was straight up on his hands and knees, rocking back and forth.

He used to be incredibly difficult to transfer so I was thrilled when he chose to settle on his front. Tonight he was OK.

I'm putting it down to a combination of teething and crawling practice. It's hard though when you get used to it being easier!

piesoclock Mon 25-Apr-16 20:30:55

Just got him down. Its like he's in a really light sleep for the first 1.5/2 hours.

Touchacat Mon 25-Apr-16 20:32:20

I think there's a bit of a regression at 9 months. My 10 mo just started to settle on her own and then that all changed a few weeks ago!
When you put him down, perhaps try a bit of shushing and back rubbing when he stirs until he drifts off again. It sometimes works for me depending how sleepy she is. Otherwise, it might just be a waiting game until they get better at settling themselves again.

piesoclock Mon 25-Apr-16 21:29:20

If only shushing and patting were enough! He used to open his eyes briefly then roll to his side and be back in the land of nod. Now he opens his eyes, widens them to stare at you in disbelief and turns into an air raid siren. It will change, he will get better I just wish I knew why he's suddenly gone awry.

Thanks both.

FifiFerusha Mon 25-Apr-16 22:51:41

Me too. Me too. My 9 mo is the same. Self settling out the window. Seems really sleepy, ready to drop and then he decides to scream or play once I put him down. BT tonight took one hour, usually takes 20 mins. Watching this thread with interest. I would say we have entered the sleep regression ahhhhh. Let me know if you solve it, get through it x

piesoclock Tue 26-Apr-16 07:48:54

I thought a sleep regression meant they woke through the night? 4 months meant that. Ugh. I'm praying that doesn't happen again.

FifiFerusha Tue 26-Apr-16 09:41:43

I think it is a bit of everything. Seperation anxiety may play a big factor. Not wanting to settle on their own and then needing you there as they go through sleep cycles in the night. There is a sleep regression between 8 and 10 months for these reasons and their brains are ticking over with all the fabulous things they have learnt, like what a wonderful sound their cots makes if they stand up and bounce and even sing while doing it arghhhh.

Nottalotta Tue 26-Apr-16 13:33:52

Oof. Woke at 4am for nearly 2 hours!!!!! This is new. And I am at work today. Yawn.

sabzh Tue 26-Apr-16 13:45:41

Hey ladies i have an 11 month old who refuses to sleep in her cot. She will sleep with me fine and will settle in her next to me side cot fine but not in her main cot. In the night she still stirs and finds herself crawling into my space for a feed or a hug. The problem is lowering her into the cot wakes her up and now im pregnant again its harder to lower her down. Can anybody help!

piesoclock Tue 26-Apr-16 18:29:25

Sab - have you got an oh who can do the lifting and settling? Ive done that. There was much grumbling about it but tough.

sabzh Tue 26-Apr-16 21:28:05

I do but dd wont fall asleep with hin when he tries so its just me who she falls asleep with

FifiFerusha Wed 27-Apr-16 10:03:14

Nottalotta- mine was up all night. Well three night waking up over an hour each time. Surely this is a regression if we are all going through it.

I empathise with you Sab. I have sciatica which was getting better but now I am having to rock to sleep I am In agony and he will will not settle in any shape or form for DP. You have to be really careful if you are pregnant. Can you stick a hand through the cot bars and sit down to help lower her. I know it is a long shot but trying to think of how to help. I have tried sitting down to shhh DS but he thinks it is a game so it may not be too much help.

piesoclock Wed 27-Apr-16 13:48:56

Sab - can you get tge baby to sleep and your oh does the arms to cot transfer?

Nottalotta Wed 27-Apr-16 19:02:33

Chappy night last night too, not helped by not having an afternoon nap. Mum had him while I was at work and hasn't quite grasped that he needs help to get to sleep. So by the time I picked him up he was exhausted and then woke three times between 8 and 10 I think.

I think it must be a 'regression' but then a lot has changed for us, I've started back at work, teething, crawling etc.

piesoclock Thu 28-Apr-16 16:03:22

Same here with things changing, except no crawling yet. My HV today assured me things would improve and it's just a phase. I hope it ends soon.

FifiFerusha Thu 28-Apr-16 19:05:33

terrible night last night. DS was up five times, three of them for over 45 minutes and I am getting severe back, and leg pains from the rocking or the shhhing. not sure what to do sad it is like he is three months old again. in fact he is waking at the same times he did then. And just think three(or four, not sure) weeks ago he was sleeping though from 7 until 6(with a tiny waking of two minutes at 7.35 and 4am) but that was when he could self settle.

Nottalotta Thu 28-Apr-16 19:15:53

Ds isn't crawling proper, but commando style and gets on his hands and knees and rocks. Keeps waking at 4 properly awake. Not sure whether to try blackout blinds? It's hit and miss whether he will go back to sleep. This morning he was feeding, rolling away asleep, rolling back, latching on, and off........need to break THAT habit but maybe not while he's teething etc. Work again tomorrow...... Hoping for a better night.

FifiFerusha Fri 29-Apr-16 10:03:53

Definitely black out the windows. I have a homemade effort of old black curtains up in his room stuck to the windows. It is so funny but they don't let out as much light through the sides like some black outs. Saying that these lighter evénings /mornings mean that it is still lighter in his room at bedtime than even his nap times. Up once last night but for two hours, not sure if that is progress of regress. I actually started to feel angry with him. Now, that is wrong. Feel a bit bad but didn't let on to him x

Nottalotta Fri 29-Apr-16 13:20:36

It's hard isn't it? Better night for me last night but my mum has got him again today so who knows? In fact I'm going to speak to her and ask her to at least try to get him an afternoon nap!

piesoclock Fri 29-Apr-16 14:19:00

I'm going to order blackout blinds this weekend. When my boy is too awake having a light room does not help.

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