Hi, can't believe I've not been on this topic before. Sorry this is likely to be a long post but I feel our sleep issues may not be straightforward.
DS is nearly 4 months old and hasn't slept for more than 4 hours at a stretch since he was born. We didn't really do much by way of a routine until about 4 weeks ago, just let him kip on us (ie me) in the evening until 9ish when we put him to bed in the snuzpod and then got ready for bed ourselves. Usually he would finally settle around 10/10.30pm and then wake every 2 or 3 hours to feed (bf). On a good night he would feed and then go back down within 15 minutes. No idea how long his naps were but sometimes would sleep 1.5-2 hours in the sling. So this was as good as it's ever got and I could cope with it.
I struggled with bf at the start and he has reflux so was really slow to gain weight, so I became a bit obsessed with feeding and can feel i am now getting obsessed with sleep- it dominates my life!
We've been trying to do proper bedtime routines (bath, massage/story, feed) and to put him to bed sometime between 6.30 and 8 (we try and time bedtime 2 hours after the end of his last nap but doesn't always work like that!). Initially it's ok - he usually wakes at least once but will go back down if DH goes in. Sometimes he wants a top up feed. I then get about an hour or two to myself when I do a bit of clearing up and get a shower (saves time in the morning!) and then lights out at 10/10.30 for us. DS then usually wakes around midnight, and it can then be every hour/2 hours after that. In the last couple of weeks his 3am wake up has turned into an hour or even a 2 hour wake up, usually triggered by changing his nappy (I try and do it quietly in the dark, and only if I've heard him poo which is always!). Once he's fed I hold him upright against me sat up in bed to help it settle (recommend with reflux) which can result in us both falling asleep. If I try and ease him back into his cot, he will start writhing and thrashing his arms and you can often hear the regurgitation going on or the air gurgling in his tummy. So I get him up again, or DH will get up and bob him up and down and get him back to sleep, put him down and the thrashing starts again. He will very very occasionally self settle by chomping on his hands but often he will just wriggle till he gets upset. Eventually I feed him again and he'll often drop back off on me, at which point it's often nearly 5am. DH's alarm goes off at 6.15 and DS will often wake early too although with the long night wakings recently we've both snoozed til 7/7.30.
Then I spend the day trying to get him to nap. Or rather keep him asleep. He will often fall asleep ok after a feed but then wake up again after 1/2 hour and not sleep any longer. If I have him in the pram/sling he might sleep longer but will often take nearly an hour to go back to sleep again. I wonder if he just doesn't want to nap much but will get overtired if he doesn't. I work on the premise that he will be tired around 2 hours after he wakes up. Sometimes he will nap 15 mins and then be awake another 2 hours.
It doesn't help that I read the No Cry Sleep Solution book to see that he should be getting 15 hours sleep (night plus naps), but he only gets around 11 all in, so I worry he's chronically overtired and doing harm, although he's generally a happy little thing. He's developing well although still struggling to gain weight thanks to the reflux (he's on ranitidine at the mo).
Anyway I don't know whether I want advice or support or just 'I feel your pain'. I just feel like I must be doing something wrong. Everyone else's babies seem to sleep for hours at a time. But I feel I have found my people on this board!
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CoffeeAndOranges · 14/03/2016 08:45
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