Tired, grumpy...had enough of this lack of sleep malarky

[HollyC255552]

I am sooooo tired, fed up and grumpy. DD is nearly 8 months now and for the last 3 months ish part of the night she co-sleeps with us normally from about midnight but this has got earlier and earlier the past few weeks. She is a terrible sleeper always has been and wakes a lot, so this is why decided to bring her in with us this did help to start with didnt wake up as much & she was easy to settle as next to me but now she is waking quite a bit (i think she is teething at the moment which is completely understandble) i am just so tired, fed up of not having a good sleep anymore is there something we could do for the wake ups? I want to get her sleeping in her cot the whole night but i dont think that will ever happen and anyway is there any point?? i'd only be up and down every hour.

[Purpleboa]

Hey Holly. Sorry you are still having a rubbish time of it. If it's any consolation, I'm right there with you. I could have written every word of this post!! Do we have the same baby??

Miserable too. Had a lovely mother's day but last night was bad, I was in tears. I just can't see it ever changing! I have several weddings to go to, and a works conference overnighter in June. So things HAVE to improve by May. But that's only two months away and I'm getting desperate!

So am following this post for advice too

[HollyC255552]

Hi Purple - sorry to hear your still in the same boat. Our babies do sound very similar. Haha. Glad you had a lovely mothers day though, i did too. Just such a shitty night. She was up from 2-5.

I'm back to work in a month, part time only thank god but still need things to improve by then (fat chance of that).

Hopefully someone will come along with some wonderful advice for us.

[Purpleboa]

Oh god that sounds rough. It comes to something when even co sleeping doesn't work! Not working great for us either. She keeps waking and I just don't know what she wants off me.

It's so hard having a long term non sleeping baby. Can't really blame it on a regression or a stage, when the normal standard of sleep is bad!

To make matters worse, I'm feeling rough today as I made enthusiastic inroads into my mother's day bottle of Baileys. Got a bit carried away, told myself 'well it's only Baileys, it's not going to get me that drunk!' Unfortunately I'm a massive lightweight these days so it was enough to leave me feeling a bit ill today. Off to a baby toddler class, wish me luck...!

[fluffikins]

Also have the same baby here! Some nights I have the effort to resettle her in her cot until 4am but most nights she's in with us before midnight.

[HollyC255552]

Purple - yep its definitely not a stage or a regression. We just have poor sleepers! Hope you have fun at your baby class.

Fluff - thats pretty good going sometimes managing until 4am, i just haven't got the energy to keep resettling in cot i know i do need to start though otherwise she will be in our bed forever.

[fluffikins]

Oh it's very rare! I'm. It sure I believe that though, I don't really see the difference between her coming in at 11 or 4. I try to resettle once at least but I know people who coslept until the baby slept through at 10-11 months and didn't have major issues getting them into a cot

[Nan0second]

If you're at the end of your tether, consider joining the "what worked for me" thread. This got my daughter sleeping all night in her cot (next to my bed) at 7months! Prior to this, she was up every hour or two. Since then 2 wake ups max per night (and has slept through twice!)
It's about teaching to self settle (and object permanence).
This link explains about the latter
www.preciouslittlesleep.com/what-you-need-to-know-about-sleeping-through-the-night-part-i/

(but then goes into controlled crying which is not what I'm suggesting, just speeded up gradual retreat which is in the thread above).

[Purpleboa]

Thanks nano. I've looked at that thread and it certainly seems to have a lot of success stories. Just worried it won't work for us - DD is incredibly strong willed! But I'm planning to try it. Got nothing to lose (apart from my sanity...)

[fluffikins]

I think we have the same child purple. I can't see it working for us either, I think dd would just whip herself up into an uncontrollable and inconsolable state

[Nan0second]

DD extremely strong willed too so I do understand your pain! I'm not going to lie, She was extremely cross at the change but actually things were so bad that we were having hours of upset with her not sleeping so actually 1 night of being really upset (although she was not alone) then reduced all future upset!
I haven't night weaned but am going to look at that when my husbands on annual leave in a couple of weeks. She's only needing 1 feed now (down from 3-4!) and as I said, has slept through twice so I think she'll probably only need a little nudge.

[fluffikins]

I have noticed my dd has gone from 10,12,2 and 4 feeds to 11 and 2 and 4 ish so I'm hoping time will be the best help. She's not eating solids though so feel I can't wean or do anything to cut feeding until she's eating more

[trebleclef101]

You have my sympathies

I have tried co-sleeping with my DD but it doesn't seem to help, she is just as unsettled whether I'm there or not.

Was up every 1.5 hours last night, not feeding most times just re-settling. Just wish I knew what was waking her up, it never used to be this bad

[HollyC255552]

Sorry to hear that treble i guess we just have to suck it up & deal with it eh? Nobody has come along with any advice yet.

[Purpleboa]

Sadly I think when you get to our stage Holly advice is thin on the ground! I posted a similar thread a while back which received hardly any responses. That's why I set up the thread for long term bad sleepers, as I think it's a bit of a different situation to other problems here, many of which are thankfully temporary. Unfortunately we don't fall into that category! And I think many people just don't know what to say as they'll know we've heard it all before.

But if we can get through this, then I reckon we can get through most things. It's certainly been, er, character building!