I can't cope with the sleep anymore, please help me man up and sort it out?

[ppandj]

DS is happy, lovely and cheerful in every way apart from sleep. He is almost 10months old now and is totally reliant on us to get to sleep, rocking/holding/feeding to sleep. We embraced co-sleeping and it worked for a short while to get us more sleep when he was very little but he has never slept all night. Basically he can't self-soothe, wakes up in the night trying to practice walking/ standing, wakes up at 5.30am for the day and I am just so tired now. I have posted before about sleep training as I wanted to avoid it but I think it is unavoidable because I feel unable to cope now. I feel like a failure and am so cross with myself for letting it get this bad. At the moment our bed is in DS's room to try and get him used to the room but he has so far hated his cot.

I really don't want to do CIO. DS is too big for pick up put down. I want to try "the chair" method maybe so he isn't alone, but is it too confusing? What could/should I try?

[waitingforsomething]

Controlled crying? Returning at increasing intervals to soothe/check but don't get him out and feed him or rock him. He will get angry about it but you are doing it to help him get rest. It takes a long time forst night but usually takes less then a week to show vast improvements.

[TheCatsMeow]

Place marking I'm having similar problems

[ICJump]

I'd grab a copy of no cry sleep solution. Lots of non cry it out suggestions.

[SnuffleGruntSnorter]

I was going to recommend the no cry sleep solution too. It wasn't a miracle overnight curr but after a week things were so much better

[Sparrowlegs248]

I am reading no cry sleep solution and have to say i already feel encouraged. We haven't started yet as i wantt to read it properly first but its looking good and I am SO relieved to be doing an alternative to cio and cc.