How often do you check on a sleeping 4 year old?

(63 Posts)
CmummyC33 Sat 09-Jan-16 22:57:10

To settle an argument between DH and I, I am wondering how often other parents check on their children while they're sleeping? I check on DD twice in the evening, quick check of her chest rise and fall a few times and that she's not too hot and that's it. DH thinks we should be doing a quick check every hour. Am I not checking enough?

CatThiefKeith Sat 09-Jan-16 22:58:15

Um. A quick glance in as I go to bed?

Fairylea Sat 09-Jan-16 22:58:31

A 4 year old?! Not months old? Gosh I check once when I go to bed and that's about it! I'm sure they'll yell if they need you!

Wolfiefan Sat 09-Jan-16 22:59:44

I don't.

VikingLady Sat 09-Jan-16 23:00:02

I check on her if she goes quiet suspiciously quickly, or if she's ill.

Your DH sounds a little obsessive about it. Are you meant to set an alarm? Is there a back story?

dementedpixie Sat 09-Jan-16 23:00:08

I check on my way to bed and that's it

Twitterqueen Sat 09-Jan-16 23:00:12

Check every hour? How are you supposed to relax or get a proper night's sleep? No no no. Completely ridiculous.

And, without wishing to be really horrible here, if your child is ill or feverish she will call, cry, shout. If - God forbid - anything worse like SID should occur, it happens within a matter of minutes. So unless you spend every single minute of every waking and sleeping hour watching over her you cannot prevent such things.

Your DH is extremely over-anxious

SweetAdeline Sat 09-Jan-16 23:00:47

I don't check at all.

ThisFenceIsComfy Sat 09-Jan-16 23:01:32

Umm I don't check at all.

kinkytoes Sat 09-Jan-16 23:01:41

I only check my 2 year old once when I go to bed and then again if I get up in the night for any reason.

MajesticSeaFlapFlap Sat 09-Jan-16 23:01:43

Um, i put him to bed, check about 30 mins later to see hes asleep then no more

VagueIdeas Sat 09-Jan-16 23:02:45

I creep in as I'm going to bed, pull the duvet back over her, kiss on forehead and done.

zzzzz Sat 09-Jan-16 23:02:45

Put them to bed, go back to see they are asleep, then see them in the morning.
There is no need to check every hour, unless there are other health concerns.

LovelyFriend Sat 09-Jan-16 23:03:53

Sometimes once.
Most nights I don't.

Haggisfish Sat 09-Jan-16 23:04:00

Not al all here, either.

EskSmith Sat 09-Jan-16 23:04:11

Why would you check every hour whilst you are awake but not (presumably ) whilst you are asleep? What are you hoping to achieve by these checks. Dd2 is 6 now but from about 2 I have checked as I go to bed to ensure she is tucked in (she kicks covers off but wakes as house cools) otherwise I wouldn't even do this tbh.

AnnoyedByAlfieBear Sat 09-Jan-16 23:04:53

I don't even check on my 15 month old unless she's ill (she's a light sleeper), let alone the 3 year old!

WinterBabyof89 Sat 09-Jan-16 23:04:54

At least once to re-centre him in the bed.. Much more than that is a tad excessive in my view

Thurlow Sat 09-Jan-16 23:09:23

We have the monitor on until we go to bed as we wouldn't hear in our house if she cried as she's oddly not a child to get out of bed. But we only go in quickly when we go to bed, and then switch it off. And only if have the monitor on because if she's ever unsettled it'll be about half nine when we've got the telly on loud.

ShowOfHands Sat 09-Jan-16 23:11:10

On my way to bed. That's it. We live in a tiny terrace though. I can hear them breathing from my room.

ghnocci Sat 09-Jan-16 23:11:32

Once on the way to bed.

And I'm a pretty anxious parent.

Only1scoop Sat 09-Jan-16 23:11:56

I'm a checker but just before I fall asleep then in the night when I wake for the loo?

Every hour? Through the night?
How?

Tinofsardines Sat 09-Jan-16 23:14:02

Not a 4yo but my 3yo and 19mo don't get checked!!

horseygeorgie Sat 09-Jan-16 23:14:05

quick glance in on the way past to bed! Think your DH is a little over anxious.

ThomasRichard Sat 09-Jan-16 23:14:52

Once as I'm on my way to bed. I usually have to remove all the Lego, untangle him from the duvet and tuck him in nicely so he doesn't get cold later on. Then it's a quick kiss, smile because he looks so cute when he's sleeping and that's it.

If he was ill I'd check him more often.

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