8 week old.. Own room?

[alien11]

Dd is nearly 8 weeks old. After washing the sides of the bednest she was in next to my bed I put her in her cot in her room as the sides take days to dry!
Anyway, I put down a duvet on the floor for me and she slept like a log!! Waking for her usual feeds but much less noise/grunting and she was fully stretched out... Now of course we have the issue of cot/own room/sids risk etc.

I'm at my wits end making a decision about what to do.. Her room is right next door to ours. If we moved a lot of stuff around we could fit her cot in our room but it would be further away from me than being in her own room.

I've been sleeping next to her cot on the floor for about a week now, I've currently got a cough so been disturbing her with that :-(
She's a very healthy 13lb 8oz and putting weight on very well (98th percentile!) which also means she barely fits in the bednest anyway as extremely long.

So
Basically what I'm asking is what would you do?

[Bithurt]

Up until my ds was 4 months old, we were in a 1 bedroom flat. He outgrew his Moses basket at a couple of months so we out him into a travel cot. It had a bayonet (I think that's what it's called!) so he was higher. Could that be an option?

[DrRanjsRightEyebrow]

Personally I would still want her near me until at least 4/5 months, ideally 6. The risk of sids, no matter how small, is scary and is want to do everything I could control to minimalise it. But I am a risk averse person by nature! Can you not put the cot where the bednest is now? A small cot is longer than a bednest but not much wider?

[DrRanjsRightEyebrow]

Plus when you hit the first sleep regression you're going to want to be as close to her as possible!

[Suzy4321]

Sorry to say I think 8 weeks is too little.

Mine was just shy of 6 months because hubby had a cold and coughed half the night which woke her up,

But I would not of done any sooner too worried about SIDS. And the what if .....

[alien11]

No room for where bednest is :(

Thanks for the ideas and thoughts. I think it's back to sleeping on the sofa for Dh and I'll try to bring her back in with me somehow. Roll on nearer 6 months...

[Believeitornot]

I'd move the stuff around to get into your room. Her being in with you in her cot is better than her being in another room.

[poocatcherchampion]

Can you go in her room somehow?

Bassinet

[dementedpixie]

No way would I put in their own room at that age. We had the cot along the bottom of our bed as it didn't fit at the side. Both were in our room until over 6 months old. Why is your dh relegated to the sofa?

[Bithurt]

Thanks pooc. I think I've just mentioned a lightbulb!

[dementedpixie]

Or a sharp pointy thing you attach to a gun!

[Hawest1]

We moved house when DS2 was about 3weeks old & he was in his own room (well shared with his brother) from them as I couldn't fit his cot in my room. Since then he has slept all night & ive never had any bother with him sleeping atall.
To put ur mind at rest set up a baby monitor. Even tho u r only next door it's always nice to have that little extra reassurance if needed ☺️

[Dungandbother]

both of my DC had their own room from 6 weeks.
Both EBF till 10 months.
Both are excellent sleepers as babies and now as children. They like their own beds and happily clamber in.

I just want to counter all the matching advice so far on the thread.

You hear them, you wake up. Mothers instinct. And baby monitor next to bed.

Isn't the risk of SIDS highest when you co sleep? I know you're not suggesting that but see if you can find stats on SIDS outside of co sleeping.

[passmethewineplease]

I wouldn't, purely because of the increase in SIDS it's a small risk but not one I'd feel comfortable taking.

Co sleeping done wrong is s risk too, however many do it safely.

[alien11]

Dh is on the sofa as he is a light sleeper so wakes at any sound. I definitely wouldn't go sleep.
Spoke to Dh about it and he thinks we may be able to squeeze the cot into our room.
There's no room for anything in her Room for me to sleep on its simply too small.


Thanks for all the thoughts

[dementedpixie]

It's them hearing you that's more important than you hearing them from what I understand. And monitors have not been shown to reduce incidence of SIDS.

[dementedpixie]

Could your dh wear ear plugs? That's what I did when we had the kids in the room as I was a lighter sleeper than dh. I still heard them crying before he did though.

[MsAdorabelleDearheartVonLipwig]

Our two both went into a little nursery room adjoining ours at a couple of weeks. They weren't that far away, almost still within sight. We just couldn't take the noise! Snuffling, snoring, rustling about, my god they were noisy!

Both settled well, only woke up once or twice during the night for a feed, and slept like logs. It worked for us.

[OliviaDunham]

DS3 was in his own room from the day he was born, had an angel care monitor and a normal one. He slept 11pm-7am by 3 weeks old.

[SweetAdeline]

I put Dd to sleep in her own room at 6 weeks and she started sleeping through by 13 weeks....
....then she turned 4months and started waking every hour or so. She is nearly 4 and still doesn't sleep through that often.

Ds stayed in my room until 6months (infact was a terrible sleeper as a newborn so was often in our bed). He is now a brilliant sleeper and often sleeps 7pm-8.30am at the weekends.

Long term I really don't think it makes a difference so think about what would be best for now.

[Topseyt]

Personal choice I suppose.

I couldn't sleep at all myself with mine in our room as newborns. Out of desperation, I put them in their own rooms when they were about a month old with a baby monitor set up. I just couldn't take anymore by then.

Perhaps I was just lucky, but pretty shortly after that they began to sleep through the night. I felt a bit guilty at first, but we never looked back.

[knaffedoff]

As op have said, babies need to be near to you. Having an alarm or monitor does not reduce the SIDS risk. Its an unnecessary risk to put them into their own room so young imo

[Caterina99]

I moved DS to his own room at 3 months. We both slept much better.

Do what you think is right for you.

[Trickytricky]

My DD has been in her own room since 6 weeks. We have doors open and a monitor so we hear her. She sleeps much better and so do we. Definitely do what you feel comfortable with.

[alien11]

Thanks all :-)

We re going to see if we can move the cot into the main bedroom without dismantling it ( it's on its last legs after moving house many times! ) so fingers crossed we can.

Will miss snuggling up in the nursing chair to feed though! And definitely no room for that! Dh has said he ll play it by ear re sleeping in the same. Room. Dd is an incredibly loud feeder,Never screams etc but likes to be expressive with her enjoyment of food that's for sure!

[DrRanjsRightEyebrow]

The risk around SIDS is that they fall into a deeper sleep when you aren't near. So while some may see this as a great benefit, them sleeping deeper on their own is the very thing that greatly escalates the SIDS risk. Worth researching why the advice is there to better understand it.