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Still rocking baby to sleep on boob while walking up and down at 10.5 months...HELP!!

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Aisha18 Thu 06-Aug-15 17:43:05

My dd is 10.5 months old, ebf (and solids), has co slept (now on mattress on floor sometimes with me!) since birth and still only falls asleep while breastfeeding with me walking up and down jiggling her...I do this because I know it works quickly ish and I'm normally desperate to get her down so I can get something done. However, this is not practical, I want to be able to leave her with a babysitter (she's only been looked after by dh 2-3 times for an hour or so since birth...pathetic I know!!) but I'm too worried that she won't sleep and will scream, I want to go out for an evening but my husband can't do bedtime, etc, etc...I am aware this is probably all my own fault but now I'm in this mess id really like some help to get out of it! There is no chance I will do anything even vaguely cry it out, of anyone has any gentle ideas or any similar experience id be soooo grateful! X

MrsAukerman Thu 06-Aug-15 17:46:50

A few of us on the November 2014 postnatal thread have used this book with some positive results.

Piazzapiola Fri 07-Aug-15 09:14:25

DS2 is 9mo and I have to do think except if I put him down he wakes so I don't get naps to myself, and he wakes 2/3 times in the eve so no time with DP really. Sucks.

Lots of gentle methods, but even these involve some crying. Look at the no cry sleep solution but this takes a lot of time and patience.

Look at a thread on here called 'What worked for us'. I did this for DS1 when he was 14mo and worked well. Tried on DS2 for two nights and he screamed for 2hrs solidly and I gave up.

Good luck...

FATEdestiny Fri 07-Aug-15 13:07:51

Gentle ideas will take a long time. As long as you set your expectations to allow for this being a very slow and gradual change then you can make changes to your baby's sleep without lots of crying and distress.

The idea of any gentle method is to make tiny changes that gradually over-time lead to the end-point you want to reach.

So I assume that in the long term the factors you want to change are:
- having to walk up and down to get her to sleep
- Having to rock her to get her to sleep
- breastfeeding to sleep

and then in the long term I assume you are aiming for
- being able to fall asleep in her cot
- being able to fall asleep without your help
- being able to fall asleep without your presence.

To set some realistic expectations, slow gradual gentle changes to get to this end-point might take 2 or 3 years. But it's doable.

My suggested start point would be the walking up and down. So you keep the BF to sleep and you keep the rocking to sleep. But gradually over several weeks you start walking slower while BF and rocking. You do it gradually but still continue BF as you were and rocking as you were. And you carry on walking, just slow down the walking until the point comes that the walking can stop. Set realistic expectations, this might be a few months.

Once you don't need to walk, just rock and BF, then work on slowing the rocking down. Again gradually and slowly over several weeks until the rock is so small and slow that the movement is barely there.

Next work of getting her to accept BF to sleep with you seated. Then with you lying next to her. All of this might take a long, long time and all you have done so far is stop the aspects of falling asleep that you want to stop. The next stage is to introduce the aspects of falling asleep that you want to develop.

But please don't worry. It is entirely doable to get to the end-point you want to without distress or crying. It might just take a long time.

Another alternate is to just wait it out. Carry on what you are doing and in or 3 years the problem may well solve itself without you doing anything. It depends whether what is happening now is reasonable and can work in your family longer term.

I hope this helps.

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