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baby will only sleep in the sling, I'm exhausted!!! Please help..,

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Violette1301 Mon 27-Jul-15 11:31:47

Hi,

I'm new to this so please bear with me.

My gorgeous almost 16 week old will only sleep in the sling and I have to be standing up or she wakes. Now, this was all fine until she started waking several times in the night again so I'm exhausted as I don't get the chance to nap.
At night she sleeps in her crib if I put her down when she is in a deep sleep and I can't always tell. So I end up wearing her for two hours.

I'm at my wits end. My husband doesn't like the sling so he doesn't have to sleep times.

Has anyone else been here? I go back to work in December so I have a while to sort it. I can't wear my baby forever. The reason I started putting her in the sling to sleep is because she didn't sleep at all during the day and was getting overtired which was unbearable plus she was colicky.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
My dad told me I was spoiling her!!
Very emotional and tired mummy xxx

FizzyBubbly Mon 27-Jul-15 13:57:03

No advice but just want to say you're not alone as my 12wo is the same. The sling is good for her as she has silent reflux plus I also have a 2 year old so I can't really leave her unattended while I spend ages trying to get the baby asleep.

My plan is to get a few toddler free days and then really commit to the putting her down drowsy and awake thing. She did it for a few days at around 9 weeks so I know she can do it.

I love the cuddles and of course she loves it too, but like you it's starting to get impractical (she doesn't like having her head tucked in so I have to support it leaving me one handed) Hopefully someone will come along soon with some useful suggestions!

littleash789 Mon 27-Jul-15 14:14:27

Can you co-sleep? If she's sleeping in the sling it's probably because she's reassured by your smell and warmth et c- cosleeping will give her this, and if you're bfing that makes things easy too.
Also, I HATE people (my dad has said it too) telling me I'm spoiling my baby by cuddling him! He is a baby ffs, not an evil genius, he just wants to be reassured I'm here, as going from the constant warm and touch of my womb to the outside world is a massive and bewildering change- I totally believe in the forth trimester idea!
I would be lost without my sling too- ds 1 is 18 weeks and won't settle in a crib or Moses basket, and I'm supposed to be back to work in October- I'm trying not to worry about it and enjoy our time together!
Good luck!

Theas18 Mon 27-Jul-15 14:20:39

Sorry " husband doesn't like the sling" but it's the only way she settles at the moment. He'll have to bloody get to tolerate it at least then wont he!

It's quite possible to pace the living room slowly slinging a baby and playing his Xbox whilst you get 5 mins peace and sleep...

This is a phase and will pass, you need to do what ever it takes to safely get you all through as a family.

Theas18 Mon 27-Jul-15 14:21:23

BTW you are not spoiling her. THis is what she needs and you are a brilliant mummy responding to that ((()))

makeminea6x Mon 27-Jul-15 14:24:31

I'm with Theas

There are loads of things about parenting one might not like. Changing nappies, cleaning up vomit, getting up in the night, discipline...

If it's something that is essential at that time and you don't have a disability stopping you doing it, I think one needs to suck it up. You need your husband to parent here, and that means sometimes helping the baby to sleep (fine if he finds another method that WORKS).

It will get better

CMOTDibbler Mon 27-Jul-15 14:32:51

Yup, tell your dh to get a grip and do what needs to be done for your dd.

Have you tried co sleeping with your dd?

Violette1301 Mon 27-Jul-15 16:12:51

Thanks all for your kind words and advice. i agree with you about my husband but because he gets in and does things like put a pizza in and turn the steriliser on he thinks he's doing his bit. But when I am tired and dd has been screaming I need a break. Sorry I'm ranting now...

I have a Chicco next 2 me which we got a couple of weeks ago as dd was too big for the Moses. I have tried lying her down drowsy and lying next to her but she flays her arms and legs around. I tried swaddling but she screamed. Am I doing it right?

Thanks again for your support. Had a rough day today ��.

Xxx

Theas18 Mon 27-Jul-15 16:18:46

You are doing fine.

What you need is to hand the baby over and be allowed to put the pizza in yourself isn't it! of course you need a break. What I'd suggest is he is allowed to go for a wee when he gets in but then he gets an armful of baby and you get a warm bath with a book for 20mins after you put the pizza in!

Violette1301 Mon 27-Jul-15 16:27:24

Thank you Theas18.
I needed to hear that. I feel like I have a job with all this responsibility which I am completely under qualified for.

Violette1301 Mon 27-Jul-15 16:36:26

Oh and Fizzybubbly my LO doesn't like having her head tucked in either! Good luck, let me know what works for you.

lilac3033 Mon 27-Jul-15 19:10:17

Have you looked at a Sleepyhead? DD only slept on me for the first 4 weeks, hated swaddling and startled herself awake. Sleepyhead has made it so much easier. Started with it next to me in bed then moved to her crib. Sleeps in it with no issues!

tinkerbellvspredator Mon 27-Jul-15 19:25:18

The only way I ended up being able to put DS down not with me next to him was when we got a second hand amby hammock. We're also following Sarah ockwell Smith sleep book and doing background noise (sleepytot seashore) as a sleep cue and also tried to introduce a comforter (but he doesn't seem to need that). I do still feed him to drowsy and some times completely asleep before putting him in it but he's now sleeping in the evenings and good naps in it. I think the fact I started with bedtime so he got used to it being part of the bedtime routine before introducing it for naps also helped.

Wibblewobble100 Mon 27-Jul-15 20:58:45

My DS was similar if not worse at 9 months. He settled well at the start of the night but woke every 1.5 hours or sometimes every 45 mins. I tried to night wean (DH was amazing and did all the resettling) but hung on to the dream feed because I though if he couldn't go from 11 - 6, how would he go from 7-6? We got to the end of our sleep deprived tether around 10 months and I took DS to my parents, and they did all the resettling for two nights while I slept. I didn't dream feed those nights. Hes slept better and better every since. Now does 7- 5 ish. I think it was night weaning ( although he started crawling at the same time) that made the difference.

Wibblewobble100 Mon 27-Jul-15 21:01:16

Eek posted that on the wrong thread- sorry. Clearly I'm still more sleep deprived that I think.

MioNome Tue 28-Jul-15 23:15:06

I hear your 16wk old and raise you a 9 month old who only sleeps in a sling.... blush
No advice but you're not spoiling her. But if it's not working for you, then change it.
I plan do do some gradual retreat in the next few weeks for bedtime and nap time.
Good luck and enjoy the snuggles

tortoisesarefab Tue 28-Jul-15 23:40:30

Have you tried patting to sleep? Lie them down on their side and hold arm and pat her back, if she wriggles just hold firmly and keep patting and shushing, stay really close so it's almost like you are holding her. When she settles slow down the patting and then leave your hand still on her back, if she stays asleep then gradually lighten your hold until you can let go.

Violette1301 Wed 29-Jul-15 09:38:03

No I haven't tried that, I'm willing to give it a whirl. After reducing the patting will I weaker when I put her on her back?

tortoisesarefab Wed 29-Jul-15 16:25:10

Not if you are careful, just have her tilted to the side rather than right over and then guide her gently onto her back. Good luck

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