DD shares a bedroom with DS aged 5. He goes to bed between 7:730pm, we try to settle him so he is asleep at 7:30pm but normally he won't sleep until 8pm.
DD chills out reading in the front room while he is settled, and has her story with either DH or me, depending on who is putting the other to bed. She goes to bed at 8pm, and either has a story in bed if not had one, or she is allowed to play with her dolls/read a book for 15 mins max.
Two problems.
- She keeps getting up, or calling out, saying she can't sleep. Sometimes she has a stomach ache, sometimes she feels 'out of sorts', sometimes she just simply states she can't sleep. In particular, when we are both home, she will often get up with her bear and come into the front room in an attempt to sit with us (as soon as she has her bear with her, we know she wants to be up, the bear jingles so we know she's coming before she arrives!).
- I have a disability which tires me out and affects my mobility. Some nights, I go to bed not very long after her. I try to wait until she is asleep, but she is now almost always still awake at 9pm and I need to lay flat by 9pm. I try to stay up, but can't always do so. DH goes out on occasions, and when he does, she comes into my room almost immediately, stating she can't sleep. It's like clockwork. I send her back to bed, or take her back to bed depending on how mobile I am feeling. But she keeps coming back.
She had the knack of being able to make me feel bad for sending her back to bed!
She won't sleep until 9:30pm most nights. This evening she did the usual 'can't sleep, almost immediately' at 8:15pm, so I let her put her small light on and read propped up with pillows for 15 minutes. DH has just gone out to visit a friend, and I heard him speaking to her in a frustrated manner before he went. I am now waiting for the sound of her bear and seeing her standing in the doorway clutching her bear with a furrow in her brow.
What can I do to get her to settle? She has a small light on when she first goes to bed, but prefers to sleep with it off, has the hallways light on with the door open a little (has to be 'just so'). DS likes to go to sleep with Cat in the Hat on, which DD also likes, or another audio book but I wondered if this actually stops her from sleeping so I have tried to see about turning it off.
Any ideas?