So I'm currently trying to persuade 20 week old DS to start napping in his cot (in our room) rather than next to me on our bed. He's wiggling and starting to roll and it just doesn't feel safe unless I'm right there next to him and I don't want to spend 3/4 hours a day lying in a darkened room for the foreseeable future.
(I know the guidance is for all sleeps in the same room until 6 months but he's an inquisitive soul and a light sleeper and just will not drop off/stay asleep downstairs - which is why we started the cosleeping naps upstairs. They were also a great improvement on the previous regime of vigorous rocking and shhing/stomping in the sling - he's a big baby and not one of life's natural sleepers. But now he's a little older I want to be able to get on and potter and quietly pop in and out to check on him. I'm comfortable with this having considered it carefully.)
We are taking it slowly, obviously, because he is so wee. So far we have had some success - he will now eventually consent to dropping off if I sit on the floor next to the cot with my hand on his chest and occasionally stroke his forehead. Win. BUT it takes him quite a bit longer to drop off, which makes each nap a bit late, and he is currently mostly waking after one sleep cycle and resisting soothing whereas I could (80% of the time) soothe him into a longer nap if I was lying next to him. Result is one overtired little boy, and his sleep last night was even worse than usual. So settling him for naps is harder today, and he is more resistant to the cot, and so it goes on...
Before I had him I couldn't see why people would use controlled crying etc. when there were more gentle methods available. But if the gentle methods take weeks of slowly moving the goalposts, surely you end up in a horrible cycle where you're constantly asking your DC to sleep in ways which are slightly unfamiliar for them and they don't sleep properly for ages? As opposed to 3ish days of misery with e.g. Ferber?
Don't get me wrong, I'm not about to start CC on my 4 month old, but is there any other way around this problem? Do I just do one nap a day in the cot, or will that just confuse him? Do I stick it out and hope he starts to get through that nap transition by himself sooner the more practice he has? Do I just lie in a darkened room a lot for the next few months and then do something a bit more direct? Gah.
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MrsMogginsMinge · 10/07/2015 09:02
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