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LucyB1 Thu 29-Jan-15 16:06:23

I'm going to try to teach my 6 month old dd to self settle after being fed to sleep her whole life. My plan is to make her story after her feed. Put her in her cot with bedtime music we always use and sit next to her patting sighing and holding her hand. Does that sound ok? Any tips welcome'

laurenfalvey Thu 29-Jan-15 22:09:05

That sounds fab! There is no more you can do. Good luck smile xx

LucyB1 Fri 30-Jan-15 00:32:54

It has to work. I'm sitting here in tears as this is the fifth time I've been up tonight and its only half 12. I'm shattered already and she just. Won't. Settle. confused

chloecorey2013 Fri 30-Jan-15 01:15:03

Ill join you for support? I have a 13 month old baby who i have co slept with since nearly birth and wont go in his cot. It starts officially sunday night, as he is at my mums all weekend

LucyB1 Fri 30-Jan-15 08:06:54

Ahh Chloe I feel your pain. We gave up last night and brought her in bed. Can you let me know what you go and if it works? We plan to start thurs so dh is not to tired for work.

chloecorey2013 Fri 30-Jan-15 15:29:35

I tried it wednesday but didnt want to admit i gave up and he ended up in bed grin i litrally dont know where to strart, nothing works with my devil child haha.

chloecorey2013 Sun 01-Feb-15 18:50:40

Taking him up too bed in ten! Will fill u in in the mornin how many times i had to put him back in his cot.

Im going with the get him to sleep on me then puttin him in cot when down method. Then just putting him back every time he wakes up.

chloecorey2013 Sun 01-Feb-15 18:51:01

Wish me luck!

LucyB1 Sun 01-Feb-15 20:00:51

Good luck Chloe. Let me know how it goes!

FATEdestiny Sun 01-Feb-15 20:27:22


If your LO has always been fed to sleep, would giving him something to suck on help him self-sooth? I'm thinking dummy.

LucyB1 Sun 01-Feb-15 20:32:37

Tied that fate. No go I'm afraid. hmm

Poolbirthx2 Sun 01-Feb-15 20:36:29

Watching this post!
I have tried a couple of times with my dd who is 9 months. Have co slept since about 3 months. I have tried everything and nothing works �� i will give bottle, put down in cot and as soon as she touches the mattress she screams, even when i or my dh or sat next to cot patting, shushing - i always give up and bring in with us just for some sleep

Will be watching this post for any i ideas

Good luck to everyone trying x

FATEdestiny Sun 01-Feb-15 20:44:33

I am pretty sure my DD would scream the moment she got in the cot if she didn't have something soothing to suck. What about fingers, thumb, hand, a toy, muslin square? A sleep prop may help.

LucyB1 Mon 02-Feb-15 19:17:37

Any update Chloe?

LouLouF Tue 03-Feb-15 12:54:46

Has anyone had any luck? I'm in the same boat... DD nearly 6 months old and has always been fed to sleep. She's waking up through the night every couple of hours now, I'm knackered! She will not take a dummy either. She also sleeps in my our bed (bf so easiest option for me!). Would like to move her into her own bed but sort out the self soothing first. Ive tried some methods already but they haven't worked sad not wanting to leave her to cry herself to sleep either!

LucyB1 Tue 03-Feb-15 15:54:04

What have you tried loulou?

LouLouF Tue 03-Feb-15 17:06:30

I've tried feeding or rocking until she gets drowsy but still awake then putting her down and sshhh/patting her, then pick up/put down if she cries to calm her. Have also tried taking her off the breast just before she falls asleep.. This sometimes works, but is so hard in middle of the night when trying not to fall asleep myself! At the moment I'm trying to feed her while listening to lullabies and giving her a comforter, so then (hopefully!) I can gradually reduce the feeding time and she can associate the music/teddy with falling asleep? Also, I'm planning to stop bf soon so this might make a difference, but again I want to do this gradually!

FATEdestiny Tue 03-Feb-15 17:29:35

There is nothing wrong in accepting that you have a gentle attachment parenting style and so as such you are your baby's source of comfort (co-sleeping, feeding to sleep, baby wearing, rocking, holding etc etc)

Without changing your entire parenting style (which may well cause a lot of upset to both you and baby) then self settling may not be feasible for a long time to come.

I don't mean to be doom and gloom in this. Attachment parenting is very important to some people so having realistic expectations may be useful.

The alternate is more routine based parenting - sleep is based on props, triggers, timing and autonomous settling.

LucyB1 Tue 03-Feb-15 21:00:06

I don't want to be an attachment parent any more!! I want my body back. #touchedout!!!!

FATEdestiny Tue 03-Feb-15 21:34:50

That is the main difficulty and to be blunt, it's just not going to be easy no matter how you dress it up.

Your baby has always used you as a source of comfort and so if you now want to change, you need to really work hard at giving your baby something else as a replacement for your comfort in order to get to sleep.

I would strongly recommend persevering with a dummy as a comfort suck. Your baby will find it really hard and distressing to not have anything to comfort suck to sleep if this is what she has always done.

LouLouF Wed 04-Feb-15 16:25:06

I would love it if she took a dummy! She has taken one on a few occasions but not recently.. That's why I thought a comforter might be a good idea. The rocking/feeding her to sleep wouldn't be a problem but she's waking up every 2 hours, every 45mins on a bad night ( think that might have been because she was teething though).. I can cope with that just now, but will be going back to work soon sad

LucyB1 Thu 05-Feb-15 19:48:37

It sounds like we are in the same position loulou. I want to stop breast feeding too. Dd won't take a bottle though. Planning on replacing bf with food. What's your plan?

LouLouF Thu 05-Feb-15 21:37:45

That's now my plan too Lucy! DD has always taken a bottle at night since she was about 6 weeks, but for the past 2weeks she's started refusing it! Just as I was planning on moving her on to formula shock I've given her a sippy cup and sometimes she takes it, sometimes not. I've got a night out on Saturday so I'm hoping she takes the bottle from DH with me not being there, or I can see me getting a phone call to come home if he's got a hungry baby that he can't get to sleep lol!

LucyB1 Thu 05-Feb-15 21:44:23

A night out?? Sounds like bliss. I must get her weaned off me soon or else!!!

timeforsleepnow Thu 05-Feb-15 21:56:37

Good luck Lucy! We are starting some sleep training with 7.5month old dd tomorrow.

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