My 3y 7m old dc2 has always been a shit sleeper. He's one of those duracell bunny kids. Waking/feeding every half hour day and night for months, bedtimes taking anywhere between 2-4 hours.
Then the daytime naps got dropped at 18m. The only way to get any rest was to co-sleep and keep breastfeeding. At his 2 year check with the paediatrician he blamed my breastfeeding him for the fact that he was underweight and not sleeping. He weaned ay 2.5 but the sleep never improved.
We have several nights every week when he goes to sleep at midnight then wakes up for the day at 3am.
I've seen the HV and the nursery nurse. I jumped through hoops. Did sleep diaries, food diaries, tried every strategy, eliminated various foods and electronics, tried osteopaths and supplements, and every "sleep training" method short of CC. Went back and forth to the GP several times. Eventually, with the support of my HV who is at a loss, the GP agreed to refer him to the paediatric consultants to a sleep clinic. The referral reason is stated as "extremely disruptive sleep patterns and behaviour". He chased up the referral and I was sent a choose and book letter. I rang the number on the letter only to be told that the paediatrician reviewed the referral and his symptoms and decided they can't see him at the nearest big hospital. Apparently they can't see him at the next two that are a bit further away in either direction either. The nearesr they "might" have a sleep clinic is 3 hours away, but they aren't even sure if they would accept to see him there.
I've had to tell them that circumstances would make it extremely difficult for us to attend an appointment 3 hours away, so they want to just cancel the referral, assuming I don't want him to be seen.
I went back to the surgery this evening, but the referring GP wasn't there. A different doctor basically shrugged at me and said she didn't know what to do either.
I've cried and sobbed, said I just want him to be seen by someone who will listen to me and actually hear what I am saying.
I can not cope anymore. I am broken. His daytime behaviour is hard enough to deal with when I'm rested, but this sleep deprived I'm tempted to shove him in a cage. Or find a tranquiliser gun somewhere. Or throw myself off a bridge.
I can't cope with him bouncing around in the middle of the night anymore. Or the incessant talking.
I'm lucky my other two children usually sleep well, but my 1 year old has been very poorly for the last 3 weeks, so there has been less sleep than usual.
She said she would "ask them to see him" again, but it didn't sound very confidence inspiring.
I don't know what to do anymore. Between full time work, 3 dcs and the sleep deprivation I am close to burning out.
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AllOutOfNaiceHam · 04/12/2014 20:08
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