DD is 20 weeks old today. We think we are just the other side of the 4 month sleep regression, as had 3 weeks of hellish nights with her waking around 6 times, but have now had 4 or 5 nights of ok sleep. Example, last night she woke at 11:30 and self settled, woke at 1:20 and I fed her, woke again at some point and winged a bit and must gave self settled as DH and I went back to sleep!!
Since she is back to waking up once or twice a night, I am only feeding her once, and we are helping her settle back at any other time by sitting next to her in the cot, holding hands, talking to her, and she has managed about 5 times to get back to sleep. This has taken anywhere from 20 mins to 1 hour. She winged a lot, and occasional full on crying, but she has gotten there in the end.
I said once her night sleep was back on track, I would start to tackle daytime naps, as she has to be rocked (or in pram or car) for every single nap. I don't know how to start this, as she gets terribly upset when I put her down in the cot. We have her room dark, I play white noise, sing twinkle twinkle, sway with her for 10 mins, then put her down. She has just screamed and cried in her cot from 12:20 to 1:20 and so I've just picked her up and rocked her. If I don't, she won't fall asleep!! On Monday she DID manage to fall asleep, but it took 1 hour 40 mins from me putting her down. She screamed blue murder for about 20 mins at one point and I didn't cave, but it still took her all that time. The only reason I didn't pick her up is because she'd only been awake for 30 mins when I put her down as she was rubbing her eyes something rotten, so I knew that in total she'd still only been awake just over 2 hours by the time she went to sleep. If it takes that long for her to fall asleep I will just end up with a massively overtired baby won't I? She's been awake just now since 10:20, and I put her down at 12:20, so all together awake for 3 hours by the time she fell asleep which is too long!
Is she just to young to get this at the moment? I don't mind letting her cry as long as I'm with her, but she has vomited from crying on 2 occasions and it breaks my heart when she gets so worked up. Also I worry she could choke on the vomit.
Or will it take some time of letting her take 1 hour 40 mins to get herself to sleep before she gets it? Should I persist with this? It would mean not going anywhere for a week though as I would have to put her down after only 30 mins of being awake. She also mostly only sleeps for 30 mins at a time so I have to repeat this 4 (sometimes 5) times a day!
I am happy to commit to doing this if it means we can crack it, but I don't want to cause her stress by attempting it if she is simply too young to get it.
Also, does anyone think that me feeding her once in the night could be confusing her and know whether I should try to drop the night feed? She has gone 9 or 10 hours without food twice in the last couple of weeks so I'm not sure if she needs it or not.
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RedRose27 · 19/11/2014 13:46
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