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Am I creating a bad habit?

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Twinklestar2 Thu 06-Nov-14 10:42:54

I have a 12 week old boy. He usually gets up at 7.30 in the morning. Sometimes when I'm really tired I put him in bed next to me and breastfeed him and he then sleeps for another 2 hours. If I try and move away he wakes up so I lie there and doze with my boob in his mouth.

Is this ok or am I creating a bad habit? Sometimes we get up for the day and then go back to bed an hour later and do this.

I can guarantee he'll have his morning nap if I do this and he's a much happier child in the day because of it. I don't feel like I have to constantly try and get him to sleep cause he's only had a short nap in the morning.

What do you think?

Fevertree Thu 06-Nov-14 10:44:31

I think whatever works for you at this age! 12 weeks is still so little. Enjoy your morning snuggles x

puddock Thu 06-Nov-14 10:44:33

I think it sounds idyllic smile

Gen35 Thu 06-Nov-14 10:47:41

Personally if you're both getting more sleep I wouldn't worry, you can always change things later. I find co-sleeping like this by far the easiest way to get my 4 wk old to sleep, she doesn't go to sleep on her own. Some of the books I've read say you should try and keep them awake in the day after feeding but I've found that hard to do when they want to sleep.

ghostvitruvius Thu 06-Nov-14 10:48:23

Sounds ideal to me.

Twickersmum76 Thu 06-Nov-14 10:48:52

Hi Twinklestar2. obviously every baby is different so i can only speak from my experience but i was doing this and it created a nightmare for me in month 4. My DD hit 'sleep regression' around then, waking every hour and as she could only fall back asleep through nursing. My advice would be to get up then put him down for a morning nap 2 hours later and teach him to fall asleep on his own. I followed the sleep training from The Blissful Baby Expert, Lisa Clegg and it worked brilliantly on day 1. Good luck!

puddock Thu 06-Nov-14 10:49:33

some links (e.g. to unicef leaflet) re safer bedsharing in this article

ghostvitruvius Thu 06-Nov-14 10:52:43

I kind of have the opposite opinion to Twickersmum - it's pointless worrying about sleep training before 4 months because it all goes tits up then anyway! DS1 always fed to sleep for the 1st 4 months, DS2 self-settled - but when they are going through a sleep regression you just have to do whatever you can to get the most sleep. You can work on changing things easily enough at 5-6 months when everything has settled down again.

I wouldn't give up the lovely snuggly mornings you have now just in case you hit a rough patch later - you will probably hit a rough patch anyway!

Twickersmum76 Thu 06-Nov-14 10:57:03

I should probably add I wouldn't do anything differently for the first 12 weeks - I miss those cosy mornings in bed now like crazy and agree - the best thing you can give them then is cuddles and sleep when they want it. I probably would have taught my DD to fall asleep by herself in month 4 with hindsight, to avoid the month of sleeplessness I had. Hindsight is a wonderful thing though smile

Twinklestar2 Thu 06-Nov-14 11:08:17

Thanks everyone.

He does self settle too, but only in the middle of the night. After a night feed I put him down, make everything dark and quiet again and he drops off himself.

He def feeds to sleep in the daytime.

I was planning on 'sleep training' at 6 months once he's started eating food.

Heatherbell1978 Thu 06-Nov-14 17:52:44

I do something similar with my 11 week old. Once he's properly awake (anything from 6.30 to 7.30) I'm too knackered to get up so I just put him into bed next to me and we doze on and off until about 9am. I'm not really in any kind of routine with the wee man yet aside from him feeding every 3/4 hours or so so I'm just going with the flow just now...

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