any advice greatfully taken. dd goes to sleep well at around 6.30 but wakes frequently through the night, often staying awake. we are shattered and the lack of sleep is making me ill. really need a bit of help and to hear some success stories....
Yes, I used controlled crying at 12-13 months. He was waking through habit after previously sleeping through 7.30pm-8am at 7.5 months.
He was waking and unable to self settle - which he had previously learned to. He would still self settle at bed/nap times, but once he woke half the time he wasn't able to soothe himself back to sleep.
It was quick and painless, and we have now had 2.5 months of excellent sleeping. In fact, last night was utterly amazing astounding in that he went to bed at 7.30, and slept until me and DP woke in a panic this morning at 11am . We had to wake him .
I am just praying we won't get a sleep regression soon...
He now regularly does 7.30pm-8am again. We do get the odd lie in from him too as above - but usually it would be 9-10am.
oh wow thedetectives that sounds amazing. dd has never slept brilliantly, but is getting harder to settle with a breastfeed and she is waking when I am sure she is not hungry. did you go in calm baby, give it a minute, do same after 5 mins, 10 mins ect?
Hi salt. What sort of naps does she have during the day. 6:30 is quite early to bed; my DD isn't down until 7:30 and then up at 7/7:30. Although she still sometimes wakes at 1/2 am for milk. Though that's cut down from 3/4 night wakings. We let her nap 10-12 then 3pm for 45mins-1hr. Now she is in the process of dropping the afternoon nap and her morning nap had shifted to 11:30ish (she's 15 months). She is def sleeping better since starting to drop the afternoon nap.
We did do controlled crying at around 10/11 months to help her learn to self settle, which helped, but I know it's not for everyone. She goes to nursery 3 days a week and settles to sleep there no problems (they did CC at the start too) - I think this has helped her at home.
It is really hard, so many of her peers have been sleeping through for months, and I kept thinking, where did we go wrong. But now I've just accepted that she is a bit of a crap sleeper! DC2 is due in 3 weeks and I'm really hoping they are better.
Yes, I went in after 2 minutes, 5 minutes, 10 minutes etc.
I wouldn't pick him up, I would hand him his muslin cloth (he sucks it) and turn Ewan on, tell him I loved him, but it was night time, and say goodnight. And walk out.
Sat outside the door, and went back in at the next check time.
He wasn't hysterical, which helped. He was just crying as if he was annoyed. Shouting more.
The only bit I winged it a bit on was that sometimes he would stop for a minute or two. Then start again. I never knew what the right thing to do was in terms of when to go in. So I would leave him whatever the next length of time was before going in. Often he would settle himself before I would need to go in.
The first night took an hour, second night 10 minutes. We didn't need to do it on the 3rd night.