DH and I are at loggerheads about how to deal with our early rising toddler.
DS is 2 years and 2 months old. Hes never been a fabulous sleeper and whilst things are a great deal better than they were (he normally doesnt wake much in the night any more hurrah) he wants to get up very early, from 5am. A week ago we got him a gro-clock and he does seem to understand what it does he will tell you when asked that when the blue stars are on he is to go back to sleep, when yellow sun he an get up. But he doesnt do it. The clock has been set 6.30 as the night before we started he had slept until about 6.15. However most nights he is waking at 5-5.10, some earlier. Some nights he will moan for a minute or two and go back to sleep until about 5.45. Other mornings he wont. We havent been taking him out of his cot until 6.30 but what he wants (when we wont get him out) is for us to sit in the chair next to his bed and stay with him, preferably me, although generally doesnt . He also wants us to sit in the chair whenever he is going to sleep at nap or in the evening. If you try to leave whilst he is awake he gets
Other relevant points
- He generally naps well in the day for about 1.30-2 hours, normally after his lunch
- He is normally in his cot at 7.45pm and asleep soon afterwards
- About once a week we find his nappy has leaked in the night although this doesnt seem to overly bother him
- There is no light coming into his room when he is waking, only source of light being the groclock which is on a low light setting, nor is there any noise starting that might wake him
- He is in a cot in a grobag.
- We have a family member living with us and I feel bad about noise disturbing them at night. They sometimes comment on this which makes me feel worse.
- The temperature in his room seems fine and his temp seems fine
- He is not ill at the moment
- I would be willing to settle for a 6am get up time if necessary but I cant get up at 5 regularly and DH refuses
- Us going to bed a great deal earlier is impractical for various reasons
DHs approach is that we need to tough it out and that DS is trying to control us by making us go sit with him. This morning when DS didnt go back to sleep at 5 and didnt respond to us speaking to him through the monitor to reassure him and tell him to go back to sleep, DH just took the monitor off me and turned the sound off with a view to keeping it like that until 6.30. Im unhappy with that and we ended up having a disagreement in the middle of the night which made everyone unhappy.
So basically how do we best go about implementing the message to DS that he needs to go back to sleep until the yellow sun comes on the groclock without making him cry it out? Any help much appreciated