My DS is 8.5 months old. I wanted to help him self-settle and more gradual methods hadn't really worked. We did some controlled crying last week with some success - 2 nights where although he has woken hasn't needed night feed. However it really feels like the wrong thing to do, I'm ashamed and don't want to put DS through it any more .
So tonight I decided no more. The question is what do I do instead? I used to pat his back and sing to him and most times he would settle down. Not tonight, I've had to feed him twice. Feels like I'm being punished. Any ideas? Go back to just walking out of the room?