17MO DD2 wakes every night sometime between 1am and 4am and it takes 2 hours to settle her EVERY NIGHT.
Things we have tried:
*Milk on waking as she doesn't eat well so thought it might be hunger - drinks a varying amount, doesn't trigger sleep
*Calpol on waking: she's just over a throat infection and before that an ear infection and before that cut 2 teeth. She now fights the syringe and sometimes gags so hard she vomits and we have that to clear up too
- quick cuddle and put her down again - just cries out again - sometimes after 2 minutes, sometimes 10
*cutting down her 2 hour daytime nap - sometimes this has worked, sometimes not, either way it means she's in a vile mood all afternoon and too tired to eat her evening meal.
I also have a 3.10 year old to look after and am SAHM so am supposed to do the housework too. I'm suffering my second infection in a month (ear now throat), am feeding the family crap and am absolutely at my wits end. We're wading through a floor full of crumbs and kitchen full of old food ATM.
My parents live 250 miles away. They're coming next week to keep me company when DH goes away on a lads holiday for 5 days but TBH they don't really do the tough stuff. Mum's usually on the vodka by 3pm and dad does wind the kids up to high doe with exciting fun games so I'm the sensible adult doing the night wakings and early mornings and unusually difficult bedtime routine whilst he's here.
DH's parents are over 300 miles away and only visit a couple of times a year.
I have followed the MN mantra of this too shall pass but we're in the 3rd about to be 4th month of this and it's gone from a couple of times a week, to every single night with no end in sight.
Have been fantasising about throwing myself under a train all day, I'm assuming it's the tiredness. I'm literally at my wits end.