I fed my first to sleep for about 20 months, and then somehow (it's a bit of a haze) we transitioned to stories instead.
But with my 6 months old DS, I am trying to consistently feed nearly to sleep and then put his up on my shoulder for a few minutes before putting him in his cot. If I've fed too far and he is actually asleep I try to rouse him a bit. Working well at bedtime and after lunch nap, not so well at other times (and stilll co sleeping through the night!). Might be worth a try.
No great advice here, just another one in the same situation! When I need to feel better about feeding to sleep I read all the positive things about it, such as on Kelly Mom. Like you I worry that feeding to sleek means DS (9mo) will never learn to self settle (co sleeping, wakes frequently). Have tried to get him to sleep in cot for the last few nights abd it's just ended up with me feeding through the bars. Not easy to do and he's eventually come in to sleep with me anyway. And not woken less. Thinking of trying Jay Gordon too but half of me is worried he will still wake and there will be no magical boob to get him off to sleep again quickly! So am just biding time and crossing fingers and becoming a contortionist with bent out of shape cot-bar squeezed boobs he will eventually grow out of it. It would be nice though to go out occasionally and know other people could settle him rsrher than me being stressed knowing that he's stressed.
Don't think I can be much help, but was wondering the same thing about weaning off bf too. Dd is also 10mo and also fed to sleep, although only at bedtime and in the night. I had planned to stop bf at 1 year, but can see myself going on longer to do the bedtime and night feeds. But it's got to stop at some point right?!
I guess I was just hoping she'll grow out of it.... [hopeful emoticon]
My DD has never been a great sleeper. She was 12 days late and never had the sleepy-newborn thing, just went straight to screaming and colic for the first few months. She will take 2 30 min naps in the day in her cot but only if I feed her to sleep first. If I put her down awake she cries and can't / won't sleep. We co-sleep and she wakes to feed or get a binky back in on average 3 times a night. She is taking solid food in the day and I only feed her now to settle her. the whole idea of fully weaning her fills me with dread and confusion. How do I get her to sleep without the boob? Is CIO/CC the only way? We have tried CC when she was 9 months and she worked herself into such an hysterical, choking mess within 20 min (with 5 min checks) my OH is very against trying again, (although as he is not the one who has to get her to sleep 6 times a day...) and he thinks that it will all eventually come right given enough time. I am off work for 2 years so that is something I have plenty of, at least.