My 8 week old DD started having difficulty settling at night at around 7 days - taking 60 - 90 minutes to calm down and go to sleep. I soon realised she seemed to be in discomfort/pain from her stomach and although we tried all the usual suggestions for dealing with colic, treating trapped wind, etc, nothing helped and she got worse to the point that, at 4 weeks, she was taking 3-4 hours to settle at night and was very unsettled and in discomfort for much of the day too.
She was prescribed hypoallergenic formula for a suspected milk allergy (DS has a milk allergy so the HV and GP were happy to consider this early on) and ranitidine for reflux. She is much better generally in the day now, although she has bad days when she still won't settle and won't feed as much as I would expect her to, but the nights are still terrible. She doesn't appear to be in pain or discomfort the way that she used to be, it's as if she's just stuck in some cycle of automatically not settling at bedtime.
We have tried everything anyone's suggested and searched the internet for suggestions, but nothing works. We've tried - moses basket, pram, cot; putting something in that smells of one of us; swaddling; sleeping bag, soothing by stroking her, holding her hand, putting a hand on her stomach, singing, music, complete quiet, complete darkness, night lights, not turning the light off, bedtime routine; pushing back and forth in the pram (works sometimes) rocking/holding her to sleep then putting her down - she wakes up within a couple of minutes and we have to go through everything again; leaving her in her cot; picking her up every few minutes (she gets worse if we regularly pick her up); feeding earlier, feeding just before we put her down, infant Gaviscon in last bottle (worked once and she was asleep in half an hour - never worked since).
Nothing we do makes any difference either to make her sleep or to stop the crying - it really is as if she only ever falls asleep when she's completely worn herself out from (usually from crying). DH thinks we should just let her cry herself to sleep because that's what she's doing anyway and we just can't help her, but I at least try to comfort/soothe her.
I am sure she's just got into a cycle of not settling from when she was very tiny and doesn't really know what else to do. When she finally sleeps she will have two or three long sleeps of 3-5 hours, to around lunchtime, only waking for feeds. She will settle in her cot after the first feed (which will be a nightor early morning feed) with no problems most of the time. Most days she will have one or two shorter sleeps in the afternoon, settling fine in her pram, but if we keep her up after 7ish she has to be held or she will just cry. We moved her bedtime to 7ish to try to stop her getting overtired from being awake for a lot of the afternoon and evening, but we then just have an evening of trying to settle her. The alternative is what we were doing before - not getting to sleep before 1 or 2am.
Any suggestions are welcome - I think we just have to break this cycle for a few nights and then get a normal routine going but I don't know how to...
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8 week old baby stuck in a cycle of not settling at night - any advice appreciated!
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scampidoodle · 25/03/2013 11:59
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