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I'm going to try and teach 2yo dd to fall asleep on her own!

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motherofvikings Mon 25-Mar-13 11:31:34

Dd is almost 2yo and so far has been cuddled to sleep. She goes down within 5 mins of this for a nap but at bedtime it can take 40 minutes or more. She is so getting too big to fit comfortably with me in the chair.

So I've decided it's time to teach her to fall asleep on her own. confused

I have given her a pillow - because she is a big girl.
I have taken the chair out of her room - so it's no longer an option.
I've talked to her about what we will do at nap time and got ds (4yo) to big her up about sleeping too as she idolises him and she is desperate to do everything the big kids do! smile

So, the plan is to do usual nap/ bedtime routine and then instead of sitting in the chair for a cuddle we will have brief cuddle then I'm going to lie her down, say night night and go.

She will leap out of bed (I'm sure) so I'm going to try rapid return.

Does that sound ok? confused
I'm hoping it won't be too traumatic for either of us! smile

Teachercreature Mon 25-Mar-13 12:43:03

Plan sounds fine to me! Rapid return can take many returns but hang in there, and good luck! smile

mamij Mon 25-Mar-13 12:56:09

Nothing to add I'm afraid, but watching with interest. DD2 has always slept with me, but want to move her in with DD1 at the end of the year when they will be 4 and 2. So will be happy to steal some tricks/ideas!

motherofvikings Mon 25-Mar-13 13:01:56

Well nap time was surprising!

We sat down to read the standard 4 stories as usual and I explained what we would do etc etc.
Dd dropped off during the 3rd story! shock She hasn't done that for months!
So I took off her slippers, which woke her a bit, carried her upstairs and popped her into bed. She opened her eyes again, then rolled over and fell asleep!

Not exactly what I had in mind. But maybe a gentle introduction to 'big girl sleeps'?

motherofvikings Mon 25-Mar-13 13:02:51

Teacher - thanks for the reassurance! I'm pretty sure bed time will be many, many, many returns....

<goes for quiet lie down in preparation!>

BedHanger Mon 25-Mar-13 13:05:30

Following with interest as our 2.5yo DS currently insists on someone lying down with him till he falls asleep. shock

Teachercreature Mon 25-Mar-13 14:36:47

Great start motherofvikings, that bodes well! But a quiet lie down is still an excellent plan just in case smile

Had to do a lot of work with my own DD as a littlun and even now (at 7 and a half) she can find it hard to wind down so we've tried many tricks over the years. She currently has relaxing music on a CD player which helps. The best thing though is that your DD is at an age where you are able to explain to her - we found that made all the difference.

Rapid return can work wonders too - saw a programme where some poor family hadn't had a night's sleep in about six years, and RR sorted it in only three nights. Also I have a friend who geared up for a difficult transition, only to find their little one immediately rolled over and went to sleep without a single squeak! Shall keep my fingers crossed for you smile

motherofvikings Mon 25-Mar-13 19:44:06

Dh hasn't managed to leave her yet as she won't lie down and keeps crying. sad

Teachercreature Mon 25-Mar-13 19:47:42

Hang in there mother. The first night is always the worst!

motherofvikings Mon 25-Mar-13 20:24:24

Urg. Rapid rerun isn't really happening as she screams as soon as you as her to lie down.

Have adapted now to try and nip out while she's calm on some pretence or other and then go back when she gets agitated.

motherofvikings Mon 25-Mar-13 20:34:46

Hmm. She's now not melting down when I leave but is NOT keen on lying down.

BranchingOut Mon 25-Mar-13 20:38:06

Personally, I found gradual retreat better, combined with moving to a bed and using a lullaby CD to ease the transition.

motherofvikings Mon 25-Mar-13 20:40:29

She is now lying in bed, moaning but not screaming in a grouchy rather than upset way iyswim.
I might try reducing the light level a bit as she doesn't like total dark at all so have landing light on but that's c bright.

motherofvikings Mon 25-Mar-13 20:53:51

She's now jabbering away to herself. Not upset, but not exactly sleep either...

motherofvikings Mon 25-Mar-13 20:59:52

Just done a nappy change as she had a wee and wasn't happy with being wet hmm

She did lie down tho. smile
She's still jabbering away tho, more mmmm than mummy mummy...

motherofvikings Mon 25-Mar-13 21:01:15

Just done a nappy change as she had a wee and wasn't happy with being wet hmm

She did lie down tho. smile
She's still jabbering away tho, more mmmm than mummy mummy...

motherofvikings Mon 25-Mar-13 21:13:04

She's asleep! grin

She went quiet at 9 and I just went in and she's asleep.

Not too awful for a first attempt I guess. She seemed much bette once she knew (and i had demonstrated) that I would come back if she was upset.

I'm ready for bed now!

<wonders about the possibility for her not waking at 5 tomorrow after a later bedtime>

Teachercreature Mon 25-Mar-13 21:22:00

Yay to the lying down! Have my fingers crossed...

Teachercreature Mon 25-Mar-13 21:22:55

Oh crossed posts - wonderful that she's asleep! Wishing you all a good night's sleep smile

motherofvikings Mon 25-Mar-13 21:30:16

Thanks teacher! smile
I'm knackered! I was tired before (after a busy weekend away) but after all that I am spent!

Am hoping tomorrow nap time and bed time will be a little easier .....

mamij Tue 26-Mar-13 09:49:18

Well done OP!

Hope you got a good nights sleep yourself and she didn't wake up too early this morning!

motherofvikings Tue 26-Mar-13 11:21:11

Thanks! smile

She woke/ stirred loudly at 4.30 as she had kicked the duvet off - due to falling asleep in an odd position. She only needed a shh and a pat and she settled herself quickly. She slept till 7 which is v late for her but got woken up by dh's phone hmm

Round 2 for nap time today... confused

motherofvikings Tue 26-Mar-13 13:13:19

Urg, she's wired!
As soon as we got to the bedroom she got all hyper.

So an improvement from not being able to lie her down without screaming but now she's yoyo-ing in and out of bed and exploring her room. hmm

Nap times were a breeze cuddling to sleep as it only took 5 mins and then she would sleep and I could do stuff but today is not going to be like that. I will persevere with doing nap and be times the same tho! smile

Teachercreature Tue 26-Mar-13 13:17:51

Definitely an improvement - and just think how lovely it will be when she can settle herself with you doing nothing - short term pain, long term gain! smile I was sooooo happy when my DD finally learned!

motherofvikings Tue 26-Mar-13 13:23:16

Still bouncing off the walls - literally!

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