Officially fed up with lack of sleep(15 Posts)
Ooh Bertha makes a good point about daytime sleep. We are currently trying to break my ds habit of only napping on a parent- last week I managed a few daytime naps where he stayed in his cot but for two when he wouldn't settle without me I took the duvet off the double bed put my big dressing gown on made sure ds was warm and had a joyous hour where ds and I both slept. I find it harder to get the cosleeping guidelines right with 3 in a bed but 2 during the day makes it much easier and I am slowly learning how to sleep myself when we cosleep. Kx147 I know what you mean about checking on them. I would never have slept properly without my angelcare monitor.
Your DH presumably doesn't have to work every day, you should not be doing all the nights by yourself when they're as bad as this. Your health will suffer (including mental health) and is important too. Your DH should take weekend nights. If he doesn't wake, kick him till he does wake, then you go back to sleep. He could also help in the week by doing any wake ups before midnight. He'll still be getting a significant chunk of sleep.
Bertha I have type 1 and when I'm not pregnant or bf I don't have to test at night hopefully his control will go through times where you can just to an 11pm and first thing test
Its crap isn't it. I had two who didn't sleep through till around 24mo and one who managed it at 5mo (whoop whoop) but that one is now 5yo and has Type 1 Diabetes and needs blood glucose checks at night - so no sleeping through for the next 13 or so years then.
Your dh can do nights at the weekend - he sleeps in with the baby or v.v., you sleep in another room with an eye mask and ear plugs. If you get 2 good nights a week you can manage the other 5 better. Do you get to sleep in the day? If not, you and dh can share nights equally, because you're both working in the day - his work isn't more important just because he gets paid for it.
DD is 5 1/2 mths and has been waking 3-4 times a night since she was 4mths. We get one or two 'good' nights a week where she'll go 4-5 hrs straight but then I cannot get to sleep myself!! I'm quite lucky as I don't need a lot of sleep but the broken sleep is a killer. I remind myself that in some ways I'm glad she wakes. Those first few months when she did sleep were such anxious times for me as I kept waking to check she was ok. I even set buzzy alarms to wake myself up to check. At least I don't have to do that anymore.......that's a positive? Right??
I agree with and, I bring her into our bed when she wakes at 5 - I don't go back to sleep, she doesn't go back to sleep but an extra 1/2 hr lying down makes a huge difference!
Don't worry op, it will get both better and worse, but you will cope!
Mines 6.5 months and still wakes a few times a night. Can be v depressing. It's a bit bearable now we give formula at night as DP and I can work in shifts me going to bed earlier and him doing any settling til 2 ish. I remember the small snacking phase just try tickling their ear/ feet until they take a full feed. Also bringing Ds into bed with us about 5 am means we all get more sleep. After waking a few times previously he/we then slept until 9.50 which is a bit naughty but felt glorious :-)
It does suck, I've been there. But when they're that little, the best you can hope for is getting up just 2-3 times a night.
We did CC with our son, but not until he was 6.5 months, and we knew that he didn't need anything when he woke up at night (he'd stopped having milk at night a good month earlier. Sadly you just need to stick it out for a while longer. It WILL get better. DS is nearly 16 months, and were moaning about him waking up early, but grateful that he sleeps through!
When dd's a teenager I'm going to run into her room at 5am singing about fish fingers
I clicked on this thread because the title said exactly what I was thinking. It's shit isn't it. Really peed off right now. He did make me laugh though, chatting and singing at 4am the little monster.
My DS used to be a good sleeper until 17 weeks. He's now 23 weeks and the last week has been ridiculous.
Grinds you down doesn't it.
When he is a teenager I will Hoover noisily outside his bedroom door at 7am every weekend.
You're not doing it wrong we have zero routine skater from a very loose bedtime one. He gets a very quick bath at about 6:45 (after dd) then he gets dressed and I feed him on and off until he falls asleep anywhen between 7:30 and 9:00! I wouldn't fret he's still tiny and if you're still having problems when he's older you can cross that bridge when you come to it but for now, just roll with it
Thanks. It doesn't help that the last 2 days he's messed about with his feeds and won't take more then 3oz at a time, its making things really hard as he has no routine what so ever anymore. It's making me really sad. Feel like I'm doing it all wrong:-(
Ds is 15 weeks on Monday and still gets up ever 2/3 hours at night so I feel your pain. I keep telling myself it might get better once he's weaning or being bottle fed (don't know when that will be though!).
I do know, though, that although it feels like forever at the moment it really does go so fast. Soon it will all seem a distant memory
You poor thing. Can you maybe have him next to or in your bed? It really saves on the 'proper waking up' you have to do when they are in another room or a bit further away.
Ok. I know this is what happens when you have a baby, but eventually it has to improve right. For 13 weeks I've seen to him on my own (husband doesn't hear him and also has to work)
This getting up 4 to 5 times a night for no reason is taking its toll, I get that he has to be fed, but to be honest he's not all that bothered as he takes very little milk in the night. It's just the waking and the talking and the wanting his dummy. When will it all get better as in honestly shattered, fed up and feeling pretty miserable inside. :-((
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