DS2 is 2.9 yo and has never slept all night. He was a poorly baby, in and out hospital, regular NG tube feeds overnight so there were no sleep rules, we just did what we could in the circumstances to minimise his distress.
He had surgery at 17 months on his stomach and a peg put in. He was immediately more comfortable, we started weaning etc He's now a good, albeit fussy, eater, development has completely caught up, he goes to nursery BUT sleep is still a major issue.
I have to cuddle him to sleep downstairs (only takes a few minutes) then carry him up to bed. On a good night he'll stay there til 11pm, on a bad its half an hour. Then he's up, crying, wanting milk and mostly wanting me. I cuddle back to sleep, put him back in bed and so on. When I'm knackered he just stays in our bed.
We're tried gradual withdrawal, star charts, rapid return but no joy. I just cannot leave him to cry, the sound of him crying sends a shiver down my spine and I cannot leave him. I have on occassion left him when DH is away and I was sorting DS1 who'd wet the bed - he will either cry so hard so fast he's sick or when I pick him up he's shaking and his heart pounding.
He's a wriggler and big and it just doesn't work all 3 of us in a bed together so I'm wondering about moving his bed in with us, right next to me so I can put a hand out or murmur when he stirs.
I'm shattered, after various colds the nights are horrendous at the moment, and I cannot keep it up anymore.
Is this a bad idea though? By moving him in am I giving in, should I be firmer and just clear up puke and put him back (advised by HV)? Is there any other magic solution?!
He has in the past been given sedatives which do work to a certain extent but thats not a long term solution and I can't give them every night.
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Thinking of moving 2.9 yo DS2s bed into our room - good idea??
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JoandMax · 17/01/2013 16:36
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