I had a good nights sleep Saturday and on Sunday realised what a terrible effect no sleep has had on me.(19 Posts)
My dd is two this month. She's never slept well tbh. Reflux and a cleft palate needing surgery meant bad habits were firmed vey young. Sometimes she sleeps well for a week then we are back to it. Either early mornings, refusal to settle at bedtime or waking in the night but not going back off.
Saturday she woke once briefly but I had earplugs in so didn't even hear her so had a blissfull ten hours kip.
Yesterday I was like a different person.
No headache, was motivated and energetic. We took dds out all day to a bird sanctuary, chased them around. I wasn't snappy and miserable, didn't crave stodgy food, cooked a nice dinner and had an hour at the gym whilst it was cooking. I felt hopeful about the future and not depressed and anxious
Last night she woke at 4 and refused to go back off. Dh got up with her at 4.430 because I had work. I couldn't go back off.
Today I am back to square one. I've really struggled at work, feel depressed and anxious and have a massive headache. I have the energy of a sloth and probably shouldn't have even driven.
Do you ever worry about the bad effects of not getting enough sleep?
Yes all the time. I could have written your post. My DD is 19 mths and as good as your Dd at sleeping. I suffer most when she sleeps through(ish) but then wakes at stupid o'clock for the day. Finishes me completely. On the days I'm really feeling it I'm grouchy, short tempered, impatient, and easily tearful. No advice really, just tons of sympathy and to say hold on in there, it won't be forever.
oh and the craving stodgy food thing drives me crackers. I want to lose half a stone as its not helping my happiness levels but simply too tired to muster any willpower.
Just wait until you get a few nights sleep on the trot. That is where real happiness lies. Nae, elation.
Hopefully it will come soon. You have my sympathy.
Agree with you completely. DS is only 7 weeks old so have 'only' had 7 weeks of sleep deprivation, but I hate the effect it has on me. I currently feel depressed and 'out of it'. It's affecting my bond with baby too . On the odd night that DP gives me a night off I feel so much better, and like you said, a lot more positive and actually wondering what all the fuss is about!
Again, afraid I cannot offer advice, just the fact you are not alone.
domestic me too I've got a horrible fat middle I didn't have before but too tired for gym and just want to laze around eating crap to reward myself for my crap life. Dh is the same. He works horrible shifts and looks knackered but has to help me or I think I'd have a breakdown.
We have no social life and I can't remember what sex is!
Last night I was planning to get divorced so that he could have full custody. I was even planning to give him the house.
I'm happier already to know I'm not alone. I think dh thinks I'm mental and totally over reacting but I literally feel ill with it all.
I am sat here mumsnet ting the kitchens a tip, dd has poohed and should be in the bath but I actually can't move. I used to be really house proud now it's a tip and I don't care.
<coughs> any tips???? Seeing hv Thursday for all the good it will do.
My DS is 9 months and lack of sleep really starting to take it's tole. Right with you on the mood problems and lack of sex is an understatement. Even if I had the energy or inclination DS never asleep long enough!! Poor DH. Sugar and caffine are the only thing that gets me through! It really is a form of torture...
Ledkr, what did hv say? DS has horrible cough and nothing seems to help.
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i feel your pain - DS is now 21 mths old and only really started "sleeping through" (i.e. without habitually waking up every 4-5 hrs or so) about 2 mths ago - however, he still gets up at 5/6am most days and me and DH have struggled to "get back to normal" - we hardly ever go out, have spent one evening out together (at a friend's wedding) since DS was born - and sex has definitely been a thing of the past..!
we're both exhausted most of the time - we still have the occasional v bad night when DS ends up in our bed, resulting in nobody getting any sleep - and on the days following those me and DH are like zombies dragging ourselves through the day.
i really want to lost weight now and be more healthy - just seem to have put on weight since giving birth - as i also have largely survived on caffeine and cake to get me through...
onwards and upwards!
ledkr oh I feel for you! Sleep deprivation is the most awful thing and only those going through it understand how stressed and bleak it can make you feel! My DS didn't sleep through the night from birth to two and a half - literally, he slept through only 5 nights in those 2 1/2 years. He also had problems with naps, took ages to settle, woke early - every sleep problem in the book. (Like your DD there were issues preventing his sleeping - it turned out he had ASD.) I then had DD so a total of 3 1/2 years of waking up every single night ... they must have been at school before I finally began to get some regular sleep and stopped falling asleep all day, whenever I sat down and sometimes even when I didn't. What saved me was my ability to catnap and when that wasn't possible, just using relaxation techniques - for five minutes just sit and breathe quietly and relax your muscles. It isn't sleep but the closest thing to it - you just zone out and it really revives you. It gets easier with practice - maybe you've done yoga or did it at ante-natal classes? Try it before you drive home from work - just sit in the car, radio on low, and chill out for five minutes. You deserve rest to look after everyone around you. Good luck.
Thanks all. We have had two better nights from simply leaving her if its before 6 she's not upset crying just wingey crying and if we go in she just thinks its get up time!
Seeing hv tomorrow not sure how that will go.
As she's sleeping better I keep saying to her "you slept on your cot!giid girl"
Need to be thinking about a bed soon but wanted to get her more settled first. Is that stupid?
Am off today and dh starts a run of shifts tomorrow so I'm up giving him a chance to catch up.
Not stupid to keep her in cot..... very very wise.
I feel for you - it sounds horrid. Reflux really screws up sleep...
Is there any suggestion of dietary allergies that might be cintributing to wakefulness?
Would you consider any form of sleep training?
Just wanted to add my voice of solidarity! DS is 2.3 and has similar sleep habits to your DD. On average he usually wakes at least once a night, and then is up for the day around 6.30am, but we tend to have a week of ok sleep and then a week of bad sleep - all seems to be totally random.
We had three particularly bad nights in a row last week and I was grumpy and DS was also grumpy because he hadn't had enough sleep either - not a good combination.
I let him have a long (2.5 hour) nap, and gave him a super-early bedtime (6.15pm, compared to his usual 7.15-ish) - mainly because I have tried EVERYTHING else to get him to sleep properly - and he actually slept all the way through until 6am the following morning. We had a lovely day the next day, as we were both well rested. I have previously resisted going down the really early bedtime route, largely because I am scared of a really early morning the other end, but someone pointed out that they don't get up later after a late night, so it could be worth a try.
Everything seems so much easier after a decent night's sleep.
I hear you OP. When DS was about a year old, we had a trip to the US which left us pretty jet-lagged. On our second night back he didn't fall asleep till 1am and I went to bed immediately. Neither of us stirred till 11am the next day and I felt positively euphoric that I had slept for 10 hours straight!
I just felt so different, it was wonderful!
I would love 10 hours sleep. It's the stuff i dream about on the odd occasion I'm asleep long enough to start dreaming. I have a 22mo dd who has never slept well with no obvious reasons as to why. I just keep hoping that as she's approaching 2 she'll start to sort it out herself because nothing we try and do makes any difference. Some days i eat so much junk i feel sick in the evening and I've never known lethargy like it
Gosh it's awful isn't it? I used to read about kids like her and be glad it wasn't me.
We had a better night last night but she's already crying and dh has just put her down. We did cc last night rather than sit holding her hand and I defo think she is better at night if settles alone.
all belly yes the lethargy is unreal. I used to be well known for being anally tidy but I sit in a mess now cos just can't be arsed.
So looking forward to her growing up. Sad really.
if your dh thinks you are mental then I suggest he takes over all night wakings for three weeks and then see how he feels
sleep deprivation is utter hell, it makes me fat and depressed
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