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Sharing night time duties now DS is in his own room

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MumOfTheMoos Thu 01-Nov-12 16:31:24

DS (7mo) moved into his own room for the whole night at the weekend, having previously slept there until we went to bed and then brought into our room to co-sleep in his sidecar crib.

3 nights in, the waking up has been mixed but last night there was a period of time when he wouldn't settle for more than 15 mins, even when I went in and BF him.

We've got lots of work to do with self settling and getting him to sleep through but in the meantime attending to him has suddenly got much harder work! When he was next to me, I could just scoop him over at the first signs of restlessness, latch him on and go back to sleep. At some point I would wake up and put him back in his crib and it was all less hassle than getting up to go to the loo.

Now, we are woken up disorientated by his calls on the monitor, often out of a deep sleep,one of us has to get up, trudge down the hall and settle him (plus, if its me, sometimes feed him) and all that can take 30 mins or so, only for him to wake up 15/20 mins later.

When we were co-sleeping DH got a clear run of a night time's sleep (lucky him) and to be fair to him, he is now taking turns. He works full time and I am studying part time for my masters which involves me being out 2 afternoons and evenings a week and so neither of us can claim a greater or lesser need for sleep. But the taking turns thing is not working - we're both sleepless!

I usually feed him twice a night but the timings can vary, plus he will settle for both me and DH without being fed so I'm also thinking of phasing out night ti me feedings - if not wakings!

How have others dealt with this? I'm more of an early to bed early to rise kind of girl and we are all up around 6.30am anyway.

MistressIggi Thu 01-Nov-12 21:51:56

Would a night on/night off be better? On dh's night he could bring him to you for feeds.
Waking every 15 mins - is he poorly, teething, or just surprised not to be coming through to your room?
Ours is almost 6 months, has a co-sleeping crib too - due to lack of space when he moves into a cot it will be in our room too, so won't quite share your corridor-wandering issues!

ceeveebee Thu 01-Nov-12 21:56:59

DH and I used to split the nights until our DTs slept through. So I used to go to bed early and he would be 'on duty' until 3am. I was then responsible for wakings after 3am. I was on mat leave though so I would then have a lie-in whereas he was out the door at 730am. We swapped at weekends.

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