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feeling a bit clueless, what should i be doing?

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Turnipno1 Tue 30-Oct-12 12:47:29

My first ds will be 5 weeks old tomorrow, I didn't want to cosleep but I am as this was the only way I could get any sleep as he hates the mosses basket.
I'm starting to worry I've created/creating a rod for my own back, I though after a couple of weeks it would be fine and he'd be in the basket....he's not, he's still with me.
Tbh I'm now in that frame if mind that a night's sleep is better than none so haven't tried him for about a week, it's difficult because he also won't sleep in it during the day so basically I am always either carrying him round or trapped on the sofa while he sleeps.
I don't know what tactic to take next, he gets colicy at ten pm every night like clockwork, should I be trying to get him a routine for bed now? If I should what? Bath, boob, bed???
I love my son but I'm worried about him being in with me and being too clingy. Argh advice/ support would be great as I feel like a clueless first timer!

ElphabaTheGreen Tue 30-Oct-12 13:01:45

The term I've seen on here for what you're describing is 'Velcro baby'. smile

He's far too small for you to be doing anything to change his behaviours - he won't be able to understand the enforced separation and get distressed. Some babies are just that way. My DS had a touch of Velcro-babyitis (I suspect most do after being inside you for 9 months!) but as he got bigger and more interested in exploring things around him he got easier to put down.

If co-sleeping makes you nervous because of the safety aspect, just Google 'safe co-sleeping' and have a look on threads further down the sleep forum list. I'm pretty sure there have been a couple of threads recently on safe co-sleeping.

ElphabaTheGreen Tue 30-Oct-12 13:03:47

PS I don't think a bath-boob-bed routine would hurt. I don't think it's ever too early to start a gentle bedtime routine.

Turnipno1 Tue 30-Oct-12 13:25:38

Haha Velcro baby describes him perfectly!! I know he's still so tiny just didn't know if I was doing something wrong and should be trying to get him more independent :$

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