What would be the kindest sleeping arrangement for toddler DD

[PogoBob]

25mo DD has always shared our bedroom - 1 bed flat - she has her own bed but does often end coming into our bed around 4am.

In November we will (fingers crossed) be completing on a 3 bed house meaning she can finally have her own room.

I'm not sure how to go about moving her own room; whether to have her toddler bed in our room to start with and move gradually or put her straight into her own room.

The things that are playing on my mind are:

• We're having to move in with the inlaws this weekend and due to FIL's inability to be seperated from his second TV (he's obsessed with recording TV programmes) DD is going to have to cosleep with us fulltime for 3 - 6 weeks, so moving back into her own bed is going to be a challenge let alone moving into another room.
  
• 6 or so weeks after we move into the house DS is due so she I worry she will feels she's been kicked out of our room to be replaced by DS.
  
  I get that I am probably being totally PFB to worry about this and should probably just put her in her own room but I'm stressed, hormonal and having a tough pregnancy so really struggling with the thought of upsetting DD

[sleepyhead]

Ds has shared a room with us all his life because we're in a one bed. From the age of about 2 he's had his own room when we've stayed with relatives or gone on holiday and has always been completely unfazed by it.

I'd move dd into her own room when you move, make quite a big fuss about it, but be prepared for some midnight visits while she gets used to it. She'll be fine

Congratulations on your forthcoming space - we're planning to finally move in the next 6 months and I can't wait!

[vespalover]

We have recently moved our 20 month and it was no where near as traumatic as I thought it would be. That was following f/t co sleeping all his life. We went straight to a toddler bed as he never liked a cot, did the nice new bedding, made a fuss of his new bed etc and after a week or so - ten days in now- he self settles and, although he still wakes in the night and we go into him briefly, overall is sleeping SO much better than when he was in with us. I was amazed and I goes to show that moving him when we felt he was ready, rather than bowing to perceived pressure from others was the right thing to do.

[xkcdfangirl]

We moved from a 1-bed place to a 3 bed when DS was 25 months. He had been in a cot in our room all his life.

Because the new house was quite near the old place we were able to drive past it a few times before the moving day and I explained that this would be our new house and he would have a new bedroom all his own with all his toys in it.

He was perfectly happy with the move, zero issues. No sleepless nights, he understood and settled immediately.

I would advise putting your DD into her own bed in her new room right away as soon as it is available. Don't put her bed in your room in the new house - it would set an unhelpful precident.

Keep your room in the new house very "grown up" without any toys in it. Let her choose a style of wall-transfers to personalise her own room. I think she'll be happy.

6 weeks is a LONG time when you're two, by the time her little brother comes along she'll barely remember the old house so won't develop the hangups you are worrying about unless you suggest them to her.

[PogoBob]

Thanks for the helpful advice everyone, has really put my mind at rest. Will put a little bit of money aside so we can invest in a few nice bits to make her new room really appealing to her and keep the baby stuff out of our room for as long as possible after the move.