Have posted this in behaviour but thought I might be able to get some advice here too....
My 8 year old dd literally has me pulling out my hair. She is extremely sensitive so often gets very upset at the slightest comment from other children at school as she thinks they're being mean to her. She cries going into school, cries if I watch a school assembly (as this makes her want me...think there are separation issues here). She is very shy and sensitive about anything and everything and also very frightened by any change.
At home she is generally happy until bedtime, which is when it all kicks off. She develops a multitude of illnesses, generally a headache and feeling sick and cries, sometimes hysterically. This behaviour can continue until we go to bed at 11pm and sometimes throughout the night. I am concerned how she can cope with a lack of sleep and the disruptive effect this has on her younger brother who she shares a room with. We have tried dealing with her in a number of ways...ignoring it, checking on her every 5-10 minutes, punishing her by taking rewards away, rewarding her with good behaviour, being calm, being cross but nothing seems to make a blind bit of a difference. She says we never believe that she feels ill and in all honesty we don't. I've tried telling her I do believe her and we will get her to the doctors in the morning to which she gets even more upset about. Dh and I never get an evening to relax as we are up and down the stairs all night long. She has a calm bedtime routine with a story and a cuddle. I've tried meditation CDs to try to get her to relax but she says they scare her.
Dd is a kind, thoughtful child but I am really struggling to deal with her and find myself feeling irritated sometimes just looking at her (which I know sounds dreadful). I am a sahm with 2 other children and have none of these issues with them, they are straightforward happy kids. Dd has a loving, secure homelife but just seems unable to cope with life and I just don't know how to help her. Does anyone have any advice? I'm not sure if she needs to see a child pyschologist or a sleep therapist? I worry that if she is struggling at the age of 8 then how on earth is she going to cope at secondary school, teenager, adult. Sorry for the ramble but I just don't know what to do with her and am exhausted!
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Sensitive 8 year old who won't sleep....am at the end of my tether
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Goneshopping · 02/04/2012 02:40
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