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JollySergeantJackrum Wed 12-Oct-11 16:43:15

Aargh! DS is 6 months next week. There have been 2 occasions so far that he has slept for more than 7 hours in a row. There have been less than 10 occasions when he has slept for more than 5 hours and these have been mainly after vaccinations.

Does anyone else have a 6 month old that doesn't sleep a long spell at night?

He is still in the room with me in his cot (DP is in the spare room in order to get some sleep). DS is EBF but we have been BLW for a few weeks and he now gets two 'meals' a day, but it's BLW so kind of hard to tell how much he's getting. He doesn't take a bottle.

Last night we put him to bed and he slept for 3 hours 20 minutes. He then woke and I fed him. I put him down in bed awake and he fell asleep. He slept for 3 hours and 20 minutes. Again, I fed him and put him down awake. He slept for 3 hours and 20 minutes. He then woke and I fed him.... Surely hunger can't be this regular?

His last feed of the 'day' starts at 7pm, he goes to sleep at about 7:30-7:45 then his first feed of the night is usually anytime between 10:30pm and midnight, but he once went until 12:30am. If his feed is around 11, he usually wakes between 3am and 4am for another feed. He goes back down very easily after night feeds and sometimes takes lots of milk, but sometimes (especially in recent weeks) is a bit less interested than during the day.

When he wakes at night I usually ignore him to see what happens. He has a toy rabbit and if he's dropped this on the floor I give it back. He often goes back to sleep and I only feed him if either he cries and won't re-settle or if it's been more than 4 hours since his last feed.

I cannot continue to function only getting sleep in 3 hour slots. All the other local baby mums seem to have babies who sleep 11 hours at night and have issues with naps instead. I think I'd swap the naps for good night sleep. Most days he has 3 naps of 30 minutes to 1.5 hours. But how much naps he has does not seem to correspond to how much night sleep he has. Or there's no pattern I can see.

travelswithbear Wed 12-Oct-11 16:45:21

Dd is 8mo and has slept through 2 or 3 times (not consecutively). I feel your pain!

JollySergeantJackrum Wed 12-Oct-11 17:07:34

Thank you. I hope it gets better for us both soon smile

LittleWaveyLines Wed 12-Oct-11 17:11:38

I have a 15 week old who has twice slept more than 3 hours in a row (4 hours both times)...normally does 2 hour sleep stretches - does that count? grin

tootssweet Wed 12-Oct-11 17:21:48

This could be us! We had a few weeks of 5-7 hours at night but then at around 3 months ds woke up @ 3 hourly intervals. I have cracked & co-sleep now but he is still feeding lots at night (roughly same pattern as you) We've also been doing BLW for the last 2 weeks but it's not really made a difference on sleep - sorry I have no advice for you but you aren't alone if that is any consolation.
I shall be watching with interest to see if anyone has any tips - but feel free to chat if it helps!

RitaMorgan Wed 12-Oct-11 17:26:12

My baby has slept through the night 5 nights in a row now - anything from 7.30pm-5am and even til 7.30am!

I hope it lasts.

He's 14 months grin

LittleWaveyLines Wed 12-Oct-11 17:32:05

Congrats RitaMorgan! (secretly wishing that this happens to my DD about 10 months before then....) grin

PessimisticMissPiggy Wed 12-Oct-11 17:36:58

My DD 5mo doesn't sleep through. Usually 4x wake ups between 7.30pm and 6am and 2x feeds. I'm tired, but I function. I only offer this info if people ask how she's sleeping. Last night we had 8 wake ups and 4 feeds.

She's BF and if one more bloody person tells me she'll sleep better if I FF before bedtime, I'm going to scream!

So, you're not alone. DD will be going into her own room soon, I hope that she'll be better then as I currently blame my DH for her frequent wakings (burps, farts, snores).

RitaMorgan Wed 12-Oct-11 17:51:28

Well, my breastfed baby had a formula dreamfeed from 4 months-8 months, and no night feeds at all from 8 months. Made fuck all difference to how he slept.

Flisspaps Wed 12-Oct-11 18:05:27

DD was having an 11pm FF at about 3 days old. She was completely FF at 7 weeks, and BLW at 6mo. Her sleep improved slightly when she moved into her own room.

She finally started sleeping through occasionally at about 14mo but even now will be unsettled for maybe three nights a week, waking at least once (usually twice) meaning DH or I have to go in to give her her bunny and dummy. This means that we're still having nights of broken sleep (11-2, 2-6) most nights - still only three or four hours at a time. Much easier to deal with when you're only awake for five minutes at a time though.

Perhaps going into his own room would help now that he's 6mo, so that he's not being disturbed by you moving about in the night, and you're not woken up at the first wriggle from him?

Flisspaps Wed 12-Oct-11 18:06:22

I should say, that the only reason I mentioned her being FF there was to further illustrate that it makes absolutely fuck all difference to how she slept, much the same as RitaMorgan's post.

InmaculadaConcepcion Wed 12-Oct-11 19:11:37

My DD didn't sleep more than 3 hours in a row until she was 12 mo. She started sleeping through (intermittently) from 13 mo.

BUT I did find my body evolved various strategies to cope - such as needing less sleep in general and a kind of shoulder-shrug approach to the whole thing. Once I stopped stressing about sleep so much, I was more able to deal with less-than-the-ideal amount of it.

DD was mix-fed in the first few weeks, then EBF, started weaning from 5 months (purees and finger foods) and had her last breastfeed at 19 mo.

We did two bouts of sleep training - two days-worth at 7.5 months to get her to unlatch and get herself to sleep at the start of the night (which also had the effect of cutting night wakings from 5-6 to 2-3) then again at 19 mo.

DD mostly sleeps through now, but we still get occasional early wakings (pre 06.00) and brief night wakings (probably nightmares).

Hang on in there, it'll get better! smile

MrsDobalina Wed 12-Oct-11 19:14:02

I had to temporarily stop speaking to some friends as they made me feel like an utter failure at this whole sleep thing with their "well my DC slept through at 3 weeks" malarky.

At 6mo, DD was still feeding 2-3 hourly round the clock so you are not alone! 3 hours in a row currently feels like heaven at the mo (now 9 mo). Still, she is better than DS was even if I am a permanent zombie zzzzzzz.

I have since decided it's all genetic and I shouldn't feel bad about it grin

banana87 Wed 12-Oct-11 19:22:10

DD at 6 months was on a very similar schedule, so it sounds right to me!

BenRoo Wed 12-Oct-11 19:51:54

I have an 11 month old who has never slept longer than 3-4 hours (well maybe a couple of cheeky 5-6's)

Today I discovered my freezer door had been open for 3 days and then came home to my front door wide open....
Yes,I live in a sleep deprived haze!

I hope that your little one improves for you!!

haloflo Wed 12-Oct-11 21:11:34

My baby wakes every 2-4 hours and often wants to play at night. She is 28 weeks. I think they could well still be hungry at some wakings. They've always had milk at night, why would they want it to stop? Could you try reducing the feeds by a minute a day? Although I know stopping feeds doesn't mean they will sleep.

You are not alone though. I go to bed before 10 every night and often grab an hour during DD's morning nap.

JollySergeantJackrum Wed 12-Oct-11 21:25:53

Very un mn, but I love you all. I was seriously doubting my parenting skills and was convinced I was doing something wrong.

thousandDenier Wed 12-Oct-11 21:29:12

DS is 2.4 and has never slept for more than four hours on the trot. Ever.

<awaits prize>

TheSecondComing Wed 12-Oct-11 21:32:52

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JollySergeantJackrum Wed 12-Oct-11 21:39:33

Dear god, denier, how do you cope? I assume coffee just doesn't cut it anymore...

thousandDenier Wed 12-Oct-11 21:50:30

I have NO idea. Can't even do the caffeine thing as am pregnant. I spend my days looking like this: confused

Sorry Jolly, I don't think I've been very helpful. Although someone did tell me today that the Millpond book is only a fiver on Amazon at the moment..

Secondtimelucky Wed 12-Oct-11 21:58:14

DD1 didn't sleep through until she was 11 months, then did another six months of waking at 5:30. Marvellous sleeper now (2.5) though, has been great since 18 months.

DD2 is four months and currently wakes roughly every two hours. She had a nice patch a month or so back when she was only waking twice a night. Now it's every two hours (three is worth a celebration!) and from about 4 or 5am she's restless, in bed with me and fidgeting. Actually still quite enjoying it because babyhood does pass so fast (pass the sick bucket eh), but will lose patience rapidly as she gets older, or if she starts doing the mammoth 'up for three hours' stints her big sister became fond of from about six months.

Does that help? This too shall pass. This too shall pass.

drcrab Wed 12-Oct-11 21:59:42

DD has just turned 1 and her record is 4 hours. I went back to work at 6 months and am now full time. confused I also run the NCT NNS (happening this weekend) and am in the midst of moving house malarky.

DS slept through... At 23 months. I have only another 11 months to wait....,.,sad

BenRoo Wed 12-Oct-11 22:15:57

Oh bollox it seems never ending doesn't it..
Not sure if I've helped either but fuck it... I love you too wink

TheSecondComing Wed 12-Oct-11 22:50:48

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