DD is getting to wide for swinging crib she's getting her arms stuck in the bars and it's disturbing her plus my ohs alarm wakes her at 530 if she's doesn't get woken by this she sleeps till 8. I've bought a good baby monitor. Should I just go for it?
I must confess I wouldn't. I know the chances are that it will be completely fine, but if I'd breached SIDS guidelines (same room until 6 months) and something happened, I know I would never, ever be able to forgive myself. Sorry, I know that's not what you wanted to hear!
yes. 4 months is ok. i've just moved my dd out at 6 months, but my friend moved her ds out at 10 weeks also due to her partner's job times. I have a single bed also in the baby room and spent the first few nights in with her just to ease the transition.
Mumble - I have to go to work so no time to find link but there really is scientific data to support that. Will try to find it later if I remember. A lot of research has been done into this (some by people I know well!).
Google it mumblechum1. There is lots of data about it.
There will be a zillion MN who come on this thread and tell you that their baby went into their own room at 4 hrs old etc etc.
I prefer to follow guidelines and not take risks. A "good monitor" isn't going to go off if they're dead is it?Because they're not going to be crying. (the angelcare ones, otoh, go off all the time apparently)
My breathing didn't seem to regulate my DS's but his breathing pattern changes ( going v quiet, then back to normal, then quiet again) certainly took years off my life and meant I spent half the night holding my breath listening to him! I can't argue against all the SIDS research, and agree that it's v v important but I also firmly believe that everyone needs a good nights sleep ( baby & parent ) and if one way works for you & your baby then go for it
The data is to do with a baby's brain literally not being hardwired yet to the extent that breathing is automatic. More often than we probably think, a baby's heart momentarily stops, and it's the vicinity of another breathing/heartbeat that kickstarts the brain activity and "reminds" the baby that's what it's supposed to do.
It's too young according to official guidelines. However, guidelines are based on the best evidence available, not on fitting round the practicalities of every day living.
My dd was in her own room about 4 months old because she was too big for her moses basket and we couldn't fit a cot in our bedroom, or a single bed in hers next to the cot. We all slept much better when she moved to her cot as I think she was disturbed by dh's noisy sleeping.
We moved our DS into his own room because he was too big for his rocking cradle/Moses basket and the cot was too big for the room. I have to say, he woke more regularly,as did I because I was checking him when he wasn't waking. So we 'more often than not' ended up co-sleeping together and still do occasionally...
It IS a risk,goes against guidelines etc etc but I think most of us would admit to using our discretion and parental judgement on occasion.
In my case, I worried too much.... Have you considered co-sleeping or a bed-cot??
Thing is - there are going to be tons of times when the "guidelines" say one thing and you end up compromising and doing slightly something different because it suits you and your own circumstances and everyone you ask will have a different opinion for you to think about.
You may as well get used to it now and decide what is best for your baby and your situation