Sad that co-sleeping isn't working for us

[Cbell]

Just that really.

I am a light sleeper and my DD (8.5mo) has become very fidgety during the night and unsettled. The last few nights we have kept her in her cot (not without tears) but she has slept so much better, as have I.

It has only been two nights and I know I should be rejoicing but I am just a wee bit sad that co-sleeping wasn't working for us. We were all ready to buy a super king size bed but that seems excessive if she will sleep in her cot.

Anyway it's the third night. She goes to bed fine but then we struggle a bit on the first waking after this she seems to settle for most of the night with only two feeds. I was feeding hourly at one point quite recently.

So I am happy that things might be getting better but still miss sleeping next to my little love

[thisisyesterday]

awww, could you push the cot up next to your bed? that way you still get to be close to her, but you have your own space

[Moodykat]

Oh poor you. I second bringing the cot closer to the bed if you can. Could you take the side off the cot and push it next to the bed?

[choceyes]

I know how you feel. I still miss my DS who slept next to me till he was 21 months (his sister was born), and he is nearly 3yrs now. Although my DH gets to sleep with him (whether he likes it or not!) in the toddler bed at night, cos he always wakes up wanting company at night.

I now co-sleep with my DD of 13 months, and it is so lovely. For me, co-sleeping is one of the best things about being a parent. Snuggling a small warm, nice smelling body at night, kissing their cheeks while they sleep....lovely!

[Cbell]

Thanks for the sympathy. I thought I might get told off for moaning.

Co-sleeping is lovely when it works. The cot is right next to the bed. It's just that DH and I are sleeping on the floor in the spare room so as not to disturb DD. We will give it a week and see how things go.

I am chanting 'Consistency is King' to get me through this first week. I feel it is only fair to give her time to adjust to the new sleeping arrangements before we review them. However that doesn't stop me wanting to curl up next to her. Fortunately her cot is too small to accommodate me!

[Divinyl]

Yes, I know: it is worse for you! When we put our DD into a cot, at times she seemed quite relieved to be able to have more of her own space and to wriggle around the edges more without mutual waking up.

What has happened since is ok for all of us though - when they are fretful or teething or waking up, they still enjoy coming into bed with you for comfort. We also co sleep if we stay the night in a hotel or somewhere unfamiliar as it seems easier that way. I suppose it is a case of them feeling quite secure if they are content to be in their cot but also to chop and change a little if they need you more in the early hours. So, yes, do give the chance to let her get used to it, it won't mean a point of no return in terms of snuggling.