9.5mo holding onto side of cot and screaming

[YourDaughterHasaTattoo]

Hi all

Previously fairly good sleeper (cried a bit when first put down, but generally soothes himself off within 10 minutes) is now screaming like a banshee whenever I put him down. So here goes for the "normal" routine bit:

6 ish WU
BF followed by breakfast (normally 30 mins between)
10ish nap time
11ish gets up has milk from beaker
12pm lunch
2ish nap
2.30ish gets up
3pm milk from beaker
5.30 teatime
7pm 30 min walk
7.30 bath & story
7.45-8pm bed

Last few days he has been screaming for 30-40 mins at bedtime and today he is refusing point blank to nap (even though he was falling asleep in my arms on the way to bed) tried BF him to sleep, but he just wakes as soon as I put him in the cot.
Been through whole CC with him at 7 months to help him sleep through as he was awake to BF every hour; only took 2 nights and he slept through.
I went back to work part time 3 weeks ago, but it doesn't seem to have bothered him so far. He has had a cold, but is on the mend now.

Sorry for the essay, but been in tears all morning because feel so awful for letting him cry at nap time today; he cried for 40mins (I popped in every 10) until he was hoarse and mummy gave up! Need to get it off my chest and am willing to try anything!

[KD0706]

Oh, I'm sorry you're so upset by this.

I wonder if it's linked to separation anxiety. I think that's 'supposed' to kick in at ten months ish but Nothing's an exact science with baby stages.

I went back to work when my DD was 12 mo (but she was 9 weeks prem so I'm never sure whether to correct her age or not !)
She started doing similar to your DD.

I don't think though that I can give you the kind of advice you want because I'm a bit of an attachment parent type. If I put her in her cot I might leave her a minute or two to see if she would settle but if she stood up and started screaming I did pick her up immediately.

[GreenTeapot]

DD is the same age and is behaving similarly. She gets upset if she knows she'll be left at all now - put her in the playpen at the pool yesterday while I took my jeans off and she went purple and did that silent scream thing, before kicking up the biggest yell ever. DP could hear her from the men's changing room . I think more reassurance is rarely a bad thing - what about if you sit by the cot or cuddle him to sleep? AngelDog will be along with details probably, but this is a classic stage for sleep to go tits up. It will pass (but I am half demented with it myself if I'm honest).

[KD0706]

Sorry about that half finished post.
I used to hold her till she was calm and sleepy then try to put her down but generally if she started crying I just picked her straight back up. Ended up with some stressful evenings and I also co slept a lot with her.

Anyway, she does seem to have settled down now. She's 14 mo now. Generally now I put her in her cot and she looks around, turns herself onto her tummy and takes herself off to sleep.

With us it was just that she went through a phase of needing extra reassurance and then got over it.

As I say I'm sorry I don't have any 'sleep training' type advice for you. But hopefully it will just be a phase, as it was with my DD.

It may be that your DD does need a bit of time to adjust to you being bs k at work.

I notice that your post is a few days old and I hope that the past couple of nights have been better for you

[KD0706]

Sorry for getting your DS's gender mixed up!!