...on his own, I mean? I am a (mostly) happy cosleeper and we went into this with our eyes open. We knew there'd be a pay-off for the peaceful nights with a newborn and a decent amount of sleep for us. The benefits for us have been that unlike with DS1 (who was in a basket at the bedside until 7 months), we have never been woken in the middle of the night by DS2 crying because he wants milk, or cuddles, or to get back to sleep. I've been woken, sure, but gently, by him stiring, and it's usually a matter of popping a boob in his mouth, or turning over with him, and going back to sleep. The benefits for DS2 are that he gets to cuddle up to me all night, should he want to, and he's only a few inches away from his boobs.
BUT. Obviously there's a pay-off. DS2 sleeps on my lap for naps (or in a sling), as did DS1 (not so bothered about that at the moment, we manage) and also 'goes down' in the evenings on my lap, while DH is putting DS1 to bed upstairs. Since DS2's 'cot' is our bed (with a sidebar arrangement that we've never put him in...) he's not left in there on his own. And I've not ever been able to put him down without lying next to him anyway. He is pretty resistant to being put down while asleep as it is, probably because he's always slept on me or his dad.
So - what do we do? Have been re-reading NCSS which does have some ideas for this sort of situation, but at the moment, rather than move him out of our bed altogether, I want to try and get him to sleep on his own upstairs of an evening, enabling me to do something other than sit on the sofa and MN very quietly! So has anyone else managed this with a cosleeping baby? How did you go about it?
(Rod-for-yer-back-ers need not apply, thanks - I know we 'did' this to him and maybe what I want is just having my cake and eating it. But we enjoy cosleeping at the moment and I don't necessarily want to change that part of the way we do things.)
Sorry - DS2 is 5 months, btw.
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ReshapeWhileDamp · 31/05/2011 22:44
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