She's good for nights. (By which I mean, "I don't want to talk about it.") But her daytime nap? All of a sudden it's a no-go zone.
We go through the routine: stories with 3yo ds. 3yo ds then goes to sleep. I bring dd into her room, lie her down, bf her. (So shoot me.)
Until Saturday, she would roll over, sigh "mama", and pass out at this point. Since Saturday, she is far too busy trying to scratch that frickin' mole off my boob, comment on passing traffic, or tell me all the words she knows (which there are quite a lot), to go to sleep.
First time, I tried just leaving her shut in her room. This felt scary and weird, as closing a door remains the fastest way to send ds hysterical with terror, but dd didn't give a rat's. She chatted merrily to herself, calling out every once in a while. Not really knowing what I was doing, I went in randomly, put her back on bed, said "sleep time, night night", then left. Bear in mind she was almost nodding off at morning tea, before a quick nappy change and the stories, so it's not that she's not tired. And after an hour, she asked for another bf, finished, rolled over and went to sleep.
Second day, I tried all the same, only with, how shall I put this? rather less... charm. And this time she asked for bf three times, each with the same result: She wasn't giving in. Hell, she wasn't taking the slightest bit of notice. Which was impressive, since, having been deprived of my one measly hour of rightful me-time, lava was coming out my ears and I suffered a catastrophic sense-of-humor failure. (Trans: after an hour and a half, I let her out, then lay down on the bed and cried.) She didn't nap the rest of the day, which was hell with 11kg of whingey toddler attached to my leg, and the night afterwards was double hell.
Day three, I'd read about sleep regressions (my golly goodness that explained a lot - thanks for the links, AngelDog!) and felt much calmer. She faffed around for half an hour, then started to cry a little. Just at that moment, the Parentline counsellor, who was right in the middle of telling me what to do, said, "...you just let her cry through it" and I thought, "I'm not doing that" so I hung up on him, marched in there, picked her up and cuddled her, and bang! off to sleep on my shoulder within two minutes.
Everyone's saying to me, it's fine to leave her in there alone, and if I go in it must be with no eye-contact, no talking, no touching her. And I just cannot get my head around that. If that's what you want to say here, please save your keystrokes.
But I would appreciate any other suggestions. I really, really, really, really, really, really, really, really, really, need her to nap, for both her sake and mine.
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Call me a PC hairy-legged muesli-eating lentil weaver, but does anybody have a suggestion for recalcitrant 18m-old that isn't "let her cry it out"?
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phdlife · 08/11/2010 11:22
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