I do absolutely agree about antenatal wards and miscarriage practice - indeed Mners experience of that awful sitch inspired the miscarriage code of practice
However, with widgets and tools - I just kinda figure that on a site like mumsnet there is a LOT that alludes to babies and having them and being a parent. I rather suspect that tools have a considerably less significant impact on someone feelings of loss, confusion, anger and so on than a lot of general threads might.
I don't think you are being precious, I think it is a reasonable thought. Just not one I agree with