If you (still) feel the need to discuss Moldies [part 2]

[YetMoreTech]

This thread is a continuation of this one. That one had become too big for its own boots the system to handle.

[Tortington]

controlfreaky, i wonder if you can put your post here so people can comment, i don't want to do it, cos it might be seen int he wrong light.

so inanser to what you said, i think its perfectly understandable and its definatley something i am wrestling with

i haven't got a list of people, but i have caught myself vetting who i am answering

[BumpermightsuetheSindie]

Hmm, interesting point from controlfreaky. I'm inclined to agree, though there are people that I really liked and like a lover who screws you over, just because they do something you don't like doesn't mean you just stop liking them. God, I'm always so melodramatic on these threads!

[shivermetinsel]

I missed all this Moldies nonesense but i can guarantee that they are not all evil b*stards.I know someone who was invited to join but she is such an insecure person she was just so thrilled to be wanted that she did not think of any implications.She is now so devastated by the thought of what you lot might think of her that she has de-registered from mumsnet, which is a shame for her and a huge loss to mumsnet.

[FairLadyRantALot]

that is quite sad, but understandable....custardo

[roisin]

Cripes is this still running?
Apart from one or two names I don't actually know who is/was a moldie, and care little.

I am quite happy for Mumsnet to be completely open, and am always disappointed when people feel they can no longer post on here, for whatever reason.

Over the past 8.5 years there are people who have come and gone on this site, and from time to time I might even shrug and think "Hmm... I wonder what happened to Tigger?" But such reminiscences rarely occupy me for long.

In the same way that if I suddenly disappeared one day, most people on here wouldn't notice, a few might wonder where I was, and even 'miss me' for a week or two. And that's fine with me - it's even one of the things I like about the site being so big now.

[Flihgtattendant]

Well Controlfreaky I read your post and I understand it.

On the other hand, i am one of the people who is feeling it - the 'moving on' thing - and I am not sure why.

I do still think about it occasionally and feel a bit cross, a bit hurt - but have somehow assimilated it into my mind in its own little box. So it doesn't get in the way of normal posting on here...ie I'm trying to forget all the nonsense, all the 'up the arse' posts from people who were frankly rude and arrogant in their defense of their group. (Not all by any means, I hasten to add, but there were a few dodgy posts)

and just carry onr egardless iyswim.

I don't know if it helps that I did have a nice email from a Moldie saying sorry about it all. Maybe that has helped me move on.

But I haven't forgotten it, just acknowledge that I can't do much about it and try and take people at face value when they post on here rather than bring that up in my mind when I see certain names.

Perhaps that's because I never went to any meet ups. i am sure that makes it easier for me and prob says something about the depth at which MN nestles in my consciousness, for real...ie not too deep...

[Flihgtattendant]

And also it feels a bit like when a member of my own family pisses me off. Yes it hurts a lot and I do carry it around for a while, I don't forget - but I need them, I really do, and they are my family, and therefore i kind of push it to one side and get on with it.

[Clarissimo]

I said early on I didn't want to know who was in Mouldies (Peachy btw), I meant it for exactly thsoe reasons I think- I didnt want to meet somene on a thread and think 'ooh I remember that horrid comment you amde'.

but it's nt the members that bug me, just those who amde thoughtless / nasty / bizarre comments afterwards. I quite understand how someone could enter into it all without thinking; coming on and posting 'because certain people dont give enough / were voted out' etc etc is different imo.

But they were few and far between, can only think of 1 I'd avoid whom I had misgivings about anyhow, and maybe a couple i'd think things through about first. Not a lot in real terms.

[Freckle]

Is there anything fresh to be said about this issue now? I don't see how it is helpful to start up a new thread about it - why not just let the other thread get to capacity and then drop the issue?

Perhaps the Moldies issue should be treated in the same way as the GF one. The more opportunity people have to discuss the longer the bitterness will remain. I've noticed on the other thread that posters are coming on and saying - ooohh didn't know about this, can someone update. So an update is posted and the whole thing kicks off again.

Can it not just be laid to rest now?

[NAB3lovelychildren]

I still have no idea what went on.

[NoShitSherlock]

Neither do I NAB

[TheTwelveDAISYofChristmas]

wow, we nearly broke mumsnet

I think controlfreaky's post sums up what a lot of people are feeling. there will always be a bit of guarded posting now I think as people wonder

a) are you a mouldie?
b) did you vet my invitation?

and again, in answer to the "I don't understand why you are all so upset" comments; people have felt betrayed, sniped about and worthless as they had RL relationships with some of the main protagonists and feel duped. That sort of hurt takes time to go and leaves a gaping hole where there was once trust imo. Other people's feelings shouldn't be made less of just because it isn't how you have reacted.

So.....in the spirit of New Year/new start; Can we all go back to discussing cocktails, pasta sarnies, rev's cult (I accept paypal too Rev ) and arse grapes? Please

Happy New Year xx

[RustyBear]

Freckle - the other thread had got to capacity and was causing technical problems, so it had to be closed, which is why YMT started this one - it's not really another thread as such, just a continuation of the old one.

[fishie]

what did controlfreaky say then?

[Freckle]

I gathered that, but I don't see the point in facilitating the continuation of that thread, which had descended into more of a general chat thread anyway. By creating another thread (albeit an extension of that one), it is merely poking the sore with a sharp stick.

[Flihgtattendant]

I know what you mean Daisy,

Freckle I expect this thread will just die off, like an old verruca...but better to have a place it can be discussed rather than lots of little 'what happened then?' threads popping up I suppose.

I kind of feel like if I wasn;'t invited it probably wouldn't have been my kind of thing anyway. Almost like the people who set it up weren't really saying 'MN is shit so we need this', they were saying 'we are a bit special so we want this little site' which is fair enough but a bit, up ones arse as it were.

So not being very much up my own delightful derriere, I feel very at home here ectula.


MN is a nice happy place right now imvho...

[TheTwelveDAISYofChristmas]

I bet rhubarb is glad she isn't up her own arse

I think it needs to die it's own death freckle. Like flight says, lots of other threads will pop up otherwise, considering there are still posters coming on and saying "eh? what did i miss?"

[inSanityClause]

I'm almost sure we're past Helm's Deep now though.

[Flihgtattendant]

C&P for you Riven

By controlfreakyhohohohohohoho on Wed 31-Dec-08 10:40:51
ok. enough already with the botom problems....
hope your grape is less ouchy rhubarb... and hope even more you havent resorted to arsedoctors diy techniques.....

was going to post on mamag's thread re fitting in but didnt want to piss off mnhq so thought here was better.....

i have the self awareness to know and acknowledge that i am not good at forgiveness / moving on / getting over stuff....

i was / am cross and upset re whole sorry mouldies business and think some of the smug self justifying crap they posted on here to justify themselves was profoundly irritating and provoking.....

and here's the thing.... i dont want to say hi / be friendly / pretend it's all forgotten now etc when one of the mouldies who couldnt resist outing themselves on here deigns to pop back and put their less eclusive mn hat on and pick up where they left off.

i know there's a general move for truth and reconciliation... i'm sure that is very grown up..... but wanted to say i'm not feeling it myself. don't expect anyone to agree with me but wanted to say that's how i feel....

[NoShitSherlock]

FA wasn't your name FLIGHTATTENDANT or has it always been FLIHGTATTENDANT? Just wondering

[Flihgtattendant]

hope nobody minds

[ghosty]

Ok so I'ma a bit pissed as it is new year already herea in Australai
BUT
WHYU THE FUCKIN IN ALLT HAT IS HOLDY HAS YEET ANOTHER THEARD BEEN STARTED ON THEIS UTTERLY BORINGING SIUBJECT???

[Flihgtattendant]

NSS you're right it was flightattendant

but I have flounced toooooo often to get it back

[Flihgtattendant]

there there pet

HNY and all that

crikey