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Quick top tips on how to cope when your child starts school for the first time

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carriemumsnet (MNHQ) Mon 22-Sep-08 16:44:41

Does anyone have any top tips to pass on to parents who found the whole child starting school for the first time a bit traumatic and sad?

The Evening Standard are doing an article on how parents, and particularly mums, cope with this parenting milestone and have asked for Mumsnetters' views and top tips.

As usual the deadline's pretty tight so if you could post your quick tips here, that would be grand.

If you're one of the mums who were whooping and cheering as your child toddled off to school for the first time, do feel free to share as well grin

plus3 Mon 22-Sep-08 16:50:33

Smile at everyone, act cheerful as they head into to school and sob (if the need is felt grin once they are out of sight

stroppyknickers Mon 22-Sep-08 16:51:05

arrange to meet some other mums in Starucks/ Costas/ Morrisssons caff. Decide to enjoy the freedom and not be sad. Eat a muffin without sharing!

stroppyknickers Mon 22-Sep-08 16:51:27

Starbucks obviously.

PuppyMonkey Mon 22-Sep-08 16:52:44

What happened to the first thread????? shock

Carmenere Mon 22-Sep-08 16:53:53

Well I was one of the 'wayhey' school of mums and fortunately dd loved it from day 1. But I had good advice from here about not trying to do too much after school for the first couple of weeks. They get tres tired, what with information overload and for the first week at least, lying on the sofa watching tv is as much as they can manage after school.

Also the first day that they had school dinners, their teacher told them that it was just like going to a partyhmm which dd was very happy about.

JackieNo Mon 22-Sep-08 16:55:28

Is this information to help the kids cope with school, or the parents cope with the sadness?

PuppyMonkey Mon 22-Sep-08 16:55:53

Was it the thing I said about the Standard being three weeks too late??? wink

Mercy Mon 22-Sep-08 16:59:09

Take a photo of them outside school/classroom

Make your dc favourite meal that night

Erm, can't think of anything else really. I was a whooping and cheering type parent, and will be again next week when ds starts full-time!

Flier Mon 22-Sep-08 17:01:39

well I expected to be really upset and tearful but wasn't wasn't exactly skipping out the school gates, mind, but it wasn;t as bad as I expected, mainly because he was so well prepared for it by the school nursery

Nemoandthefishes Mon 22-Sep-08 17:04:45

DS started reception last week and did his first full day today and while I felt a bit frazzled and sad about the whole experience he couldnt give two hootshmm

However would like advice on how to deal with the little so n so who bit him for no reasonangry

PuppyMonkey Mon 22-Sep-08 17:06:08

Don't post here - this thread is an imposter. MNHQ - you know what I'm talking about.

Mercy Mon 22-Sep-08 17:09:26

What do you mean?

PuppyMonkey Mon 22-Sep-08 17:11:04

grin.... there was a version of this thread that MNHQ started before, then it disappeared and was replaced by this inferior version.... I demand to know why.

Flier Mon 22-Sep-08 17:14:40

what did you do to it puppymonkey?

PuppyMonkey Mon 22-Sep-08 17:15:36

I broke it I think....blush don't know how or why.

psychomum5 Mon 22-Sep-08 17:16:07

DD1 started school, and I was all 'wow, proud mum'.....lots of grins and made friends on our first day!

DD2 started school.....she was the original velcro baby, and she sobbed and clung while I tried to prise myself off and run.

DD3 started, and she was very shy, I was a pro<<preen>>....

DS1 started, my boy, he had just had his tonsils out 2wks before and boy did I cry.....<<sob>>blush

DS2 started, and I was prepared (we had had many tears from nursery, and he was the second biggest velcro baby in the world). I made sure I had money and I planned to go to my fave place in all the world, the local bookstore, and buy a new book and sit and have coffee....all alone and in peace.

and so I did

so, my tip......make a plan to do something you love to do the most without the kiddies, and go and enjoy.

Flier Mon 22-Sep-08 17:19:07

what makes you think it was YOU that broke it though?

PuppyMonkey Mon 22-Sep-08 17:23:35

Well, generally things are my fault wink. It all happened straight after I posted something.

It was just a jokey comment about the Standard being three weeks too late with their story. Nothing controversial....

I need a witness, there were others on the first thread. Can't bleddy remember who though. Lotsa regulars, from what I recall...

Flier Mon 22-Sep-08 17:35:10

i think you've imagined it all, puppymonkey wink !

jurahasfoundthehiggsboson Mon 22-Sep-08 17:58:17

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Lemontart Mon 22-Sep-08 17:59:07

My tip would be to be organised the night before.
(Uniform laid out ready, shoes cleaned and by the door, bag packed with everything needed, early bed so child is up early and able to eat a good unhurried breakfast etc etc)

Happy relaxed parent makes a happy relaxed child.
Has only taken me 4 years of school runs to work that one out.... blush

NappiesGalore Mon 22-Sep-08 18:09:09

make sure you get a big wet fish and keep it in the fridge for slapping yourself around the face with while you chant 'Get a Grip!' and grin maniacally into the mirror.

will take your mind off it.

Pinions Mon 22-Sep-08 18:09:34

Traumatic shock and <gasp> sad hmm ????

I have waited for this day for a loooooooooong time grin.

Pinions Mon 22-Sep-08 18:13:47

Also ds1 who has been the worst ever eater from day 1 - told me that for lunch he ate : bacon, sausage, mash potato, carrots, pudding, crackers, grapes and a drink. ?

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