is being told to fuck off acceptable on mn?

[hatwoman]

actually a geniune question - it's not a personal attack as such. but god it's pissed me off. I expect this isn't the best way of dealing with it either but fuck itmumsnet.com/Talk/1372/390087

[VeniVidiVickiQV]

No, it isnt. That's why we have the red !

[moondog]

Yes
Now fuck off and stop sulking.

[WideWebWitch]

Desiderate completely out of order imo and should be deleted, it wasn't reasoned argument, it's personal slagging off. I've told people to fk off but only jokingly I think

[TheQueenOfQuotes]

sorry please report my last post too - she's really f*cked me off now [

[pinkteddy]

report it hat, it sounded like a personal attack IMHO not to mention extremely offensive.

[madamez]

You won't die from it, you know. Some people swear lots, some people don't. ANd anyone who is going to enter into onlinediscussions about controversial subjects is going to find themselves reading posts by people who vehemently disagree with them and aren't always diplomatic about saying so.
It is possible to find ferociously moderated sites where any disagreement at all gets you suspended or kicked off, but those don't tend to lead to much in the way of interesting conversation. Posters on those sites usually end up talking about their cats. Or what they had for breakfast. Or how nice that nice Terry Wogan is. INterminably.

[NotAnOtter]

desiderata not nice

[madamez]

Marybleedinpoppins: what's racist about 'fuck off?' I would have thought it was a fairly universal kind of insult with no particular racial connotations.

[TheQueenOfQuotes]

madamez - unless the poster in question is a ZANU PF supporter I fail to see what is "controversial" about the situation which is being discuess

[madamez]

QOQ any situation on which there is more than one opinion can lead to heated discussions. And I can't honestly think of any issue on which there is not more than one opinion of the right way to proceed/who is to blame/what should be avoided.

[Hurlyburly]

Hey you lot! She didn't have a farking clue what day of the week it was, she was spouting white supremacist guff and periodically telling people to piss off.

What that says to me is drunk mner.

Your posts were fab, hatwoman, vvv and qoq. Let's go back and do that conversation.

Please?

[TheQueenOfQuotes]

I don't care how "drunk" someone is - there's no excuse for white supremist cr*p.

TBH I'm not sure I can go back and do that conversation I'm now very upset and angry because of it .

[Monkeytrousers]

Yes, why get admin involved everytime, with every arse? The self policing of MN is one of it's best features. It only happens, and is allowed to happen by oldies, rarely.

We have to take some responsibity for defending some people under attack without getting all "I'm going to tell teacher on you!"

[harpsichordcarrier]

oh dear.
well, no, only acceptable if in a joking way in context.
otherwise not acceptable though I haven't read the thread but I take it we can rule out jolly japery.

[Monkeytrousers]

oh, I thought it was about a different thread, namely the attack on kerrymum.

This one would well have stayed to the point and attacked the argument rather than the poster. There was a strong argument to be had that got lost in the mudslinging.

[VeniVidiVickiQV]

No, no jolly japery. Unless we have all missed the joke?

[VeniVidiVickiQV]

What attack on kerrymum?

[LieselVentouse]

Get over it, Ive been told to fuck off many times for lesser crimes.

[VeniVidiVickiQV]

OH LV.... you do yourself down

[LieselVentouse]

whys that?

[LieselVentouse]

o yeah come to think of it I think it was you that told me to f off

[NadineBaggott]

becoming all too common I'm afraid.

I really don't like swearing - although I did on Aitch's claire verity thread

[VeniVidiVickiQV]

Well indeed - I'd like to think if you were told to fuck off - there'd be a good reason? Otherwise what would be the point

Wasnt it "piss off" though???

[hatwoman]

thank you all. It was kind of academic in the end. It wasn't the swearing (I'm not averse myself!) it was more the delivery. one minute I thought we were having a conversation the next minute that. I don;t mind being called a ponce either. but only on threads with the words Boden in. I guess it's mostly that when it comes to discussing something like Mugabe and Zimbabwe I expect (and usually get) a higher standard of debate from the denizens of mn - Madamez - generally I don;t find that "fuck off ponce" enhances a debate at all. once its descended to that I think I'd rather talk about Terry Wogan. I never thought I would die from it either. heigh ho.