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Deleting messages in answer to PPs who clearly do not get the system

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BantyCustards Sat 14-Jan-17 17:45:41

And who use their ignorance to judge posters as being 'lacking' in some way.
I'm a pretty easy going member, I hope (and am willing to be challenged and listen to those challenges) that I'm willing to listen to the perspectives of others.

However, when being told that I am 'lacking' in some way moral way for being a single parent who is not able to be reliant at least in part on benefits due to the system that (overwhelmingly) supports female lone parents being in benefits and providing as many barriers as is possible to prevent those parents from not being at least partly reliant on benefits, and then sanctioning those parents for daring to have some kind of a relationship and thus telling the poster who clearly had little understanding of exactly how monumentally the system is stacked against female lone parents I would at least expect you to allow my 'fuck off' to stand.

J have seen far worse posts stand for far less infuriating circumstances.
Quite frankly as a'mums' site I am saddened that you do not at least highlight exactly how difficult it is for single mothers but prefer to delete our messages when we run out of patience for ignorance preferring to post a 'fuck of' messGe because Google is THAT hard to use.

EdithWeston Sat 14-Jan-17 17:53:16

I didn't see the thread you mean.

Personal attacks are against talk guidelines and 'twas ever thus.

Trills Sat 14-Jan-17 17:57:27

So you think MNHQ should look at every "fuck off" message and decide who deserves to be told to fuck off and who doesn't?

NoelHeadbands Sat 14-Jan-17 17:59:08

Thems the rules.

HelenDenver Sat 14-Jan-17 18:05:20

There are many and elegant ways of telling a poster to fuck off without saying so...

"What a lovely, measured and non-judgey thing to say. Well done you."

For example.

PerfumeAndCatsAndBooks Sat 14-Jan-17 18:12:30

"However, when being told that I am 'lacking' in some way moral way for being a single parent who is not able to be reliant at least in part on benefits due to the system that (overwhelmingly) supports female lone parents being in benefits and providing as many barriers as is possible to prevent those parents from not being at least partly reliant on benefits, and then sanctioning those parents for daring to have some kind of a relationship and thus telling the poster who clearly had little understanding of exactly how monumentally the system is stacked against female lone parents I would at least expect you to allow my 'fuck off' to stand."

Is it me, or is anyone else struggling to understand this very long sentence confused

You've never been able to say fuck off on here. There's lot of other ways of saying it though winkgrin

IonaMumsnet (MNHQ) Sat 14-Jan-17 18:55:45

Hi there Banty. We're not sure which thread you're referring to but yes, we're afraid a direct 'fuck off' will almost always be deleted as a personal attack. We do have to apply the rules the same way for everyone we're afraid.
If you feel that the person to whom you were responding was attacking you, however, please do report that post and if it looks like a PA also, we'll delete that too. Even if a particular post doesn't quite constitute a PA but is 'not in the spirit', if it's reported we can, if nothing else, make a note of it so if it seems to be becoming a habit with that person or they're repeatedly targeting one poster, or group of posters, we can take action at that stage.
Thousands of our members are single parents and we want Mumsnet to be a place where all parents can find advice and support when needed, so we do always want to know if that's not happening.
Please do feel free to drop us a line and report the post in question. We'll happily take a look.

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