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Tips for Kate: which invaluable piece of new-mum advice would you pass on? Please share it here, or Tweet to #tips4kate

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HelenMumsnet (MNHQ) Mon 22-Jul-13 14:55:23

So, the royal baby has finally arrived – congrats, Will and Kate!

Anyone with even moderately republican leanings should probably look away now – and, by look away, we mean from everything: internet, telly, newspapers, billboards, the works. The next few weeks are set fair to be a veritable fiesta of regality.

Which is ironic, in a way, because there are surely few experiences more levelling than that of giving birth and its immediate aftermath. No matter how much money you have, or how many attendants dancing errm attendance, at the end of the day, it's just you and your baby.

With that in mind, let's offer a helping hand to a fellow new mother – indeed, to all the new mothers out there. What would be the single invaluable piece of advice you'd share on the early days – and long nights – with a newborn?

Post it on the thread, or better yet, Tweet it with the hashtag #tips4kate. We'll make up a book of our favourites, and pass it on to her – and we'll ensure that your suggestions are given a permanent home on the site, too.

So go on, share: what helped you through?

scarecrow22 Mon 05-Aug-13 21:31:25

whatever idiotic gossip.columns and trolls say, the vast vast majority of fellow mums know you are doing your best for your child and feel nothing but empathy and admiration. We don't have a public voice to tell you, so read it here smile

Flobbadobs Tue 30-Jul-13 13:43:06

Don't read the newspapers or baby magazines. Or trashy ones either. Especially after you've been spotted going anywhere. You will probably get the rage..

ringaringarosy Tue 30-Jul-13 13:39:24

my only advice would be....

dont listen to any advice (except that advice)

northlundunmum Tue 30-Jul-13 13:20:57

Think of your next three months as the fourth trimester. He may be out in the world but all he really wants to do is be close to you, eat and sleep. Sleep when he does, let him set the rhythm, eat lots of cake, and give hims lots of cuddles.

MrsWembley Sun 28-Jul-13 18:47:37

Haven't had a chance to RTT, but would like to add (just in case no-one else has) something that has got me through some rough times -

'This too will pass.'

MrsWooster Sat 27-Jul-13 19:23:14

Put him in tights. They look like leggings and when I think of the billions of lost socks from DS compared to the ease of tights with DD I could weep.

scarecrow22 Sat 27-Jul-13 19:17:44

If baby is hard to wind, sit him on your knee or a cushion, hold him under the arms and circle his upper body, from the waist, in an anti-clockwise direction
Most babies love the leopard/lion hold. You can probably Google it, but roughly baby's head goes in the crook of your arm, facing out, his body tummy down along your forearm, and your hand between his leg. Daddy's bigger forearm is usually better.

Don't feel pressed to adopt one baby book/method or reject them all. Many have lots of wisdom or good ideas to.try, or give you a sense of a good rhythm to your day, and you can pick and mix what works for you. good luck smile

kim147 Sat 27-Jul-13 09:05:06

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Rugbyscrum Fri 26-Jul-13 23:14:41

Don't change George's nappy in any room with carpet on the floor (best to get rid of all carpet now, it's easier in the long run) and NEVER if his bottom is pointing towards your best Sanderson floral curtains.

Talk to him about everything that you're doing, even better make up your own songs for him. And enjoy every moment with him, watching him explore his world, as you will never have such luxury with no.2 !

HorseyGirl1 Thu 25-Jul-13 10:36:22

Make sure you tie your hair back when he gets bigger. Those tiny little cutesy hands have a surprisingly strong grip when pulling long hair!

Enjoy every single day, it goes past all too quickly.

KarlosKKrinkelbeim Wed 24-Jul-13 22:20:15

Now you've had experience of how important good care in childbirth is, don't spend £100K on clothes next year; give it to childbirth charities.

scarecrow22 Wed 24-Jul-13 22:17:59

When you want to make life easier now, by say singing baby to sleep, pause and think 'am I happy to be doing this in years to come?' If so, carry on. If not, reconsider?

sickofsocalledexperts Wed 24-Jul-13 20:45:14

Don't make tea for visitors, get them to make it. And don't use nap times to do housework - only sleep! Even a couple of mins of sleep here and there helps.

BikeRunSki Wed 24-Jul-13 20:41:52

When you run into the inevitable competitive mum, whose 10 month old can play grade 8 violin whilst riding a bike without stabilsers, then state at het very hard and say "Yes, but my son is going to be King".

NonnoMum Wed 24-Jul-13 19:31:24

Don't even THINK about an exercise programme until AT LEAST after your six week check...

NayFindus Wed 24-Jul-13 17:20:02

Did anyone say about stopping breast feeding? Get the breast flow bottles in at 6 months, show Wills how to make a bottle up - the nanny will help - and go stay at your mothers for a couple of days of pampering or you will be rubbing lemon juice on your nipples when the little blighter's over 2 to get them off.

scarecrow22 Wed 24-Jul-13 15:14:46

Babies cry from tiredness more than hunger (certainly after very first few weeks, probably before too). When you are head of state you can make it law that it is a defence in law for eliminating relatives that insist you always feed a crying baby. Especially if that baby has colic and or reflux!

Zara1984 Wed 24-Jul-13 10:11:06

When he starts teething - like, proper teething, tooth about to come through - paracetemol and ibuprofen suppositories are a lifesaver! They work much much faster than liquid suspensions like Calpol and are easier to administer if baby has sore gums and won't open his mouth for you.

DoubleLifeIsALifeHalved Wed 24-Jul-13 00:10:29

1. Make sure you get alone snuggly time with you, and just you. This may well be more of a problem if you're a princess, as there are probably bucket loads of people who will be mulling around trying to help. It's easy to feel pushed out of things and find yourself yearning for your baby when he's been spirited away by helpfulness. Demand baby back, get into bed, shut door!

2. Alone time with you, baby and HRDH (his royal dear husband!) also crucial. As above plus husband!

3. iPhone is the perfect shape for one handed Internet browsing whilst breast feeding

Enjoy and don't worry too much smile

BettyStogs Tue 23-Jul-13 23:18:38

Ignore people who tell you to 'enjoy every minute'. You won't. And that's ok, as long as you enjoy most of them.

NonnoMum Tue 23-Jul-13 23:15:26

By the way, if you go to Baby Group, and things turn into Competitive Parent mode, just nod sweetly and admire Elsie and her smiling-at-one-week skills, and Tyler and his crawling-at-three-months skills and nod to yourself thinking "Yeah, but my baby's gonna be King, ladies..."
Then pass round the hob nobs.

NonnoMum Tue 23-Jul-13 23:12:28

Did I mention that it's brilliant to stare and stare at your baby for hours?

Yup - think I did...


MorrisZapp Tue 23-Jul-13 20:15:40

If you're not loving it, don't feel bad. Loads of us don't have lovely snuggly happy early months with newborns. In fact, some of us pretty much hate the newborn stage. Plaster a smile on for DHs family but tell your friends and the doctor the truth.

Dackyduddles Tue 23-Jul-13 20:06:48

Trust yourself.

Ignore every book written as baby will.

Get proper bf help.

Sleep when baby does.

Slow down. Life is now very different. A different pace is required from you too.

If you don't feel well for gawds sake say so. Pnd is silent and sadly can sometimes be a killer.

Kafri Tue 23-Jul-13 20:01:48

Listen to peoples advice, nod along, then make your own choice! you know your own baby.

Welcome to life as a mummy, you're gonna love it!x

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