Can we be allowed to post 'oh do fuck off' in certain circumstances. Like when people post 'is that really all you have to worry about?'

(138 Posts)
Pagwatch Mon 11-Feb-13 10:51:41

Could we not have one each. Like a waiver.


Maryz Wed 13-Feb-13 17:17:23

[arf] at devil's avocado. I shall add that to casting nasturtiums in my "terms to use as often as possible" list.

nickelbabe Wed 13-Feb-13 16:48:55

oh, Kate, I want to lightheartedly reply to tell you to ........<<words deleted by nickelbabe>> for that reply grin

i won't though.
cos i'm being nice today.

AmberLeaf Wed 13-Feb-13 16:39:56

grin That's brilliant!

LtEveDallas Wed 13-Feb-13 16:01:33

With a quick nod to KateS smile

I once had that very email - I had emailed in all full of ire about a deletion that I thought was unwarranted and questioned if we were being deleted for swearing now.

Hq's reply ran along the lines of "Of course we don't delete simply for swearing, that would be fucking silly"


I was impressed.

KateSMumsnet (MNHQ) Wed 13-Feb-13 15:40:21

In the wise words of Axel Rose, "nothing last for ever, even No-November rain"

MN is a constantly evolving ever changing beast, but that makes it exciting don't you think?

Fwiw, if people complain about bad language in general we send a "yes we allow swearing on Mumsnet" type mail.

We know perhaps some of you could deal with being called a cunt, or being told to fuck off. But at the risk of sounding like a total wuss, it just isn't nice.

Imagine you were having a conversation about an issue that was causing you a lot of upset. Then someone strides over and says "I heard what you said, and I think you're being a cunt".

We are playing devils avocado here, as obviously Mumsnet is as open forum, but we like to maintain a facade of decorum.

Tee2072 Wed 13-Feb-13 12:20:34

That is a very good question, nickel.

nickelbabe Wed 13-Feb-13 10:55:09

yes, it has changed.

it seems to have become a lot more moderated than it used to be.

there are some sensitive souls on here.
why can't MNHQ send the "yes, dear, sometimes adults swear and that's just what you'll have to accept" email in reply to "miss! miss! she's picking on me! Miss! she called me a cunt!" reports like they used to?

Tee2072 Wed 13-Feb-13 09:23:55

I will finally agree it's changed.

But that's the nature of online forums. They aren't static. If they were, they would die.

When it's changed too much, I'll move on. Not any time soon, though.

Maryz Tue 12-Feb-13 23:09:10

Or even "one would appreciate you fucking the fuck off"? Let's not be too polite.

SarahStratton Tue 12-Feb-13 22:33:22

One would appreciate you vacating the premises?

Maryz Tue 12-Feb-13 22:24:38

Would you mind terribly fucking off (said in Queen-like accent)?

AmberLeaf Tue 12-Feb-13 22:22:42

A polite request at that.

AmberLeaf Tue 12-Feb-13 22:21:45

Fuck off please?

More of a request?

usualsuspect Tue 12-Feb-13 22:20:34

Any chance you could fuck off?

juneybean Tue 12-Feb-13 22:17:34

Could you fuck off?

Maryz Tue 12-Feb-13 21:55:45

Oh, no, Amber, you can't say Fuck Off. That is rood. And a command. You have to say "Oh do fuck off" in a friendly non-confrontational helpful way smile.

AmberLeaf Tue 12-Feb-13 21:53:28


So, 'fuck off' is an instruction not an insult, that makes sense to me.

What do you say to that then MNHQ?

<would love them to say fuck off> grin

Maryz Tue 12-Feb-13 21:46:38

Yes you are right about it changing.

I tend to have days when I'm stuck at home and I get drawn into threads. And I find the teenage section very comforting these days. But I really should cut down, it's not helping my blood pressure at all.

There seems to be an undercurrent in so many threads that I simply don't understand. It's a bit like going into school knowing everyone else has been at a party the day before that you weren't at, so you don't know the "rules" and you don't know who has fallen out with, or fallen in love with, who. Very confused.

SarahStratton Tue 12-Feb-13 21:44:02

Floor was great fun. Like a massive sticky jigsaw.

I know it's an old chestnut, but MN has changed. I thought it was me, and maybe i was getting tired of it, but DD (who lurks a fair bit) said today that it wasn't fun any more. And it's not, it feels like being in the middle of some oh so polite mummy mafia war. It's so subliminally goady and bitchy on here now, nobody's allowed to piss about without some self indulgent twat coming along and whining about it. And the reporting is out of hand.

Cba any more tbh.

Maryz Tue 12-Feb-13 21:38:02

<loving the semantics here grin>

juneybean Tue 12-Feb-13 21:29:08

Are we not allowed to say "fuck off" how disappointing.

AmberLeaf Tue 12-Feb-13 21:27:53

Yes, 'fuck off' is simply 'go away' but with swearing.

So if swearing is allowed as a rule, we technically should be allowed to tell someone to fuck off.

Maryz Tue 12-Feb-13 21:23:59

Wow, a floor, you say?

I haven't mastered painting behind the cupboards yet.

I also think it's an instruction - Oh do fuck off/Oh do go away, same difference, surely? Just as X is a cunt isn't a personal attack, it's a descriptive statement.

AmberLeaf Tue 12-Feb-13 21:13:55

I got deleted the other day for saying 'you can fuck off with your [insert patronising comment]

I wasn't even telling the poster to fuck off as such.

I also thought that fuck off was allowed? its not a personal attack as such, its more of an instruction.

Tee2072 Tue 12-Feb-13 20:30:20

Hark at you! Decorating and doing it without running to MN. I am impressed.


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