Husband wants me to get sexy massage

[Camiliaxo]

We are 23&25 my husband is older and we Have a 3 year old daughter and he wants to go to a paid male (pay them ) massage nude. He says it’s just for our marriage to get better and I get very scared and nervous but it’s not like I haven’t ever thought of it. It’s not sex but plz give some advice on what I should do ? Will it ruin my marriage long term ?

[dementedpixie]

He wants you to get the massage or him?
How will it make your marriage better? If you don't want it then say no

[Camiliaxo]

For me and because he said I’m his best friend and he wants to have this experience with me apparently it makes him turned on to see someone touch me

[dementedpixie]

So he wants to watch?
What's in it for you?
Is it something you want to do?
Can he not do the massage himself?

[Camiliaxo]

Yes he wants to watch and while I pleasure him and get touched ! Do u think these things ruin marriages or idk what should I do. I feel very nervous

[Thehop]

You don’t want to do no. Don’t do it. Only do things that YOU ALSO find a turn on. Never for someone else.

[SparklingLime]

If he is pressurising you to do sexual things you don’t want to do, then he is ruining your marriage.

[EmeraldShamrock]

If you have an doubts about it say no.
I don't think it would ruin a marriage as long as you both are consensual.
It doesn't seem like you are.

[Gabby39]

This will not end well don't bring other ppl in your marriage. Just say no coz it seems like you dont want to do it if u coming here for advice

[Gorl]

You shouldn’t do it because it’s making you nervous and uncomfortable. You don’t have to do anything that makes you feel that way to please your husband, and he shouldn’t be pressuring you.

[MrsDThomas]

Stand up to your self and say no.

[Josette77]

Do you want to do this?

[languagelover96]

No is a word. Say it out loud to him but make a alternative offer

[Gonnagetgoing]

wrong place please remove!

[Wheredidthequietgo]

@Gonnagetgoing I've reported it for you 🙈